Bake, you may want to read this: http://anarchism.net/steppes.htm It is a very good book on how an anarchist society could work. Granted, it is not as simplistic as saying "follow this book and all will be well", but it gives an excellent outline as to how it could work. A long read, but very interesting.
This is how I see it, plain and simple! There are many theories about the extent of anarchy, it's not realistically within tangible reach at this point. Most people can not control their emotions, much less govern themselves on a large scale. I also think no matter how androgynous and equal we become, we will still form groups and families, some of which will be more powerful than others. Anarchy is an idea. But anyone can find freedom within themselves!
They can and did, and are doing it through general assemblies, rotary committees, regional councils, recallable delegations and consensus building or horizontalist practices. So you're notion that popular self-management (by whatever name you give it) is not tangible when it's already been accomplished and is continuing today is bunk. These people have been doing it for a long time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_7hMuU4vSE
A classic Liberal is appalled by human rights abuses in places like Iran, Cuba, North Korea and Russia. The Anarchist doesn't give a damm; opposition to the Security state government of his home nation state is paramount. He does not want to blow any oxygen to his domestic opponents in areas of foreign relations. So symbolic posturing over say: Human rights in Tibet is exhibited in a vacuum of geo-strategic interest.
This is the anarchists dream. Free access to experience. You don't need systems for this you just need to liberate your caring from your preferences or the preferences of others. You are your own jailer to live up to any expectation be it those upon you of others or you upon of yourself or you of others.
there is still a minority who take as a fundamental, depending on subjective or objective morality, and I quote; To be GOVERNED is to be watched, inspected, spied upon, directed, law-driven, numbered, regulated, enrolled, indoctrinated, preached at, controlled, checked, estimated, valued, censured, commanded, by creatures who have neither the right nor the wisdom nor the virtue to do so. To be GOVERNED is to be at every operation, at every transaction noted, registered, counted, taxed, stamped, measured, numbered, assessed, licensed, authorized, admonished, prevented, forbidden, reformed, corrected, punished. It is, under pretext of public utility, and in the name of the general interest, to be place[d] under contribution, drilled, fleeced, exploited, monopolized, extorted from, squeezed, hoaxed, robbed; then, at the slightest resistance, the first word of complaint, to be repressed, fined, vilified, harassed, hunted down, abused, clubbed, disarmed, bound, choked, imprisoned, judged, condemned, shot, deported, sacrificed, sold, betrayed; and to crown all, mocked, ridiculed, derided, outraged, dishonored. That is government; that is its justice; that is its morality.[29]
The lessons of George Orwell's: Animal Farm is that a new heirearchy will always emerge from a pure state of anarchy. Like some molecular compound, anarchy is too unstable to be long lasting.