question about orgasm control

So I'm 22 and have been sexually inactive for basically my entire adult life. The few times I've had sex I have lasted less than a minute and I've never really built up a solid foundation to last in bed with chicks

I recently have been seeing a 26 year old but she has high expectations in bed and knows I'm kind of inexperienced. I need to get my confidence up by learning how to last longer

What is the best way to go about this? Masturbate for long periods of time or just try to find lots of sex partners? I feel like I'm kind of late to be this bad in the sack

Any ideas will help - I really want to fix this issue lol

 

the 26 year old already knows you're inexperienced, so just have sex with her. then do it again. and again.

 

DO NOT find other sex partners. You have someone. Some women would be highly offended and dump you for cheating.

Hubby always said he masturbated before a date so he could last longer. I wouldn't advise this, but when he drinks, he takes longer to finish (sometimes too long!). Maybe having a beer or one drink might affect your stamina. But don't drink to the point you are drunk. Most women can't stand a guy who's out of control.

 

Ok I left some details out

I was seeing her for like 2 weeks then shit hit the fan and she said she didn't want to date and I was more serious about it than her lol. She is a nymph and admitted to me she is sex deprived but the main reason she said she lost attractiveness to me is because of my 'negative energy'. I still plan on getting her back, I know in my heart I can do it because she was all over me like crazy for a long time. She has already seen me change into a more positive person

I'm just looking into the future - I need to be able to rail her hard lol

 

I think you blew your shot bud (pun intended). Sounds like you had a woman that wanted to have fun and get nasty and you hesitated and got to serious on her, and then coupled with this "negative energy" or whatever she booked it.

Good luck on getting her back and if you do succeed here's what I would do. I've never had a premature ejaculation problem though I can cum quickly if I want to, but in the few occasions where I was so horny I came quickly I took a 15 second break and then went at it again. So even if you do cum quickly I don't see what the problem is, so long as you can keep going. Now if can't and end up getting soft after the first cum, then in that case get some Viagra or Cialis as that stuff is amazing and will keep you hard as a rock even after cumming a few times. Only problem with it is it's very easy to get hard, almost too easy. Still it's the lesser of two evils. Just my 2 cents...


Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong, but if a guy came within a minute or multiple times you probably wouldn't mind so long as it didn't slow him down and he still kept at it and brought you pleasure too right? However if a guy cums within a minute and then rolls over or kicks you out of bed well that isn't cool.

 

To answer your question, to improve stamina, masturbating for long periods of time and not cumming apparently helps. I have a friend who does this, he calls it cock training haha.

 

Exactly. Women won't keep an inconsiderate lover around. If she has to satisfy herself later, why would she keep the "middleman"?

He should masturbate earlier in the day and see if that helps him last longer.

 

Middleman, lol that's great

Its kind of interesting. I think most guys want to jackhammer away and go as fast as their body is able as that seems to be the quickest way from point A to B. I've obviously had the most experience with my wife and while she enjoys a good jackhammering it's never brought her to climax.

I find when I slow things down a bit (usually if / when I need a slowdown breather) that's when my wife gets in the groove and can cum. And when she's on top and doing her thing I can always tell when she's getting near as she slows the pace to the point where it's almost a massage and I couldn't cum even if I wanted to given the pace

Bottom line speed isn't the answer and will only make you cum quicker and may not impress her any either.

 

I do agree. They already know so it would be good to practice.

 

I realize with me that it's a confidence thing and mental thing. If you go in the pussy scared or afraid u will bust real quick. But if you go in knowing or thinking ur giving her good dick. It will be great.

 

Yes, I know how to control an orgasm. This gives me the opportunity to fuck my GF without my cumming