So the other night I went out with this woman. In the beginning she kept playing w/ the label on the beer, tore it off and seemed kinda fidgety. After a while she relaxed and we had a good conversation etc.. at the end of the night we talked for a little outside and when I said 'goodnight', I went in for a hug, and she gave me a 1/2 hug to the side and rubbed my arm goodnight (a little awkward)... not sure how to proceed on this one.
In heterosexual relationships [first date, as per this thread], the man does not initiate the hug (body contact). That is for the woman. She lets the man know how comfortable she is with first body contacts at successive levels. Some guys expect a kiss. That is wrong. Some guys expect a hug. That is wrong. Let her start the goodbye and you should have the good sense to see what it is. It could be a graceful handshake. Whatever form the woman chooses to initiate, she is signalling her comfort level with you and giving an indication of your "performance " in the date. This is regardless of how fun she was during the date. If you are still interested in the girl, go back and do it right this time. It will show her a good side of you. - JKHolman
or, you could ignore gender stereotypes and just act however you're comfortable acting. in this situation, she is clearly not interested. better luck next time.
Oh, man. There's so much you left out. 1) How did you meet? 2) Have you made your intentions clear? 3) Did you pay for this date? If the answer to #2 is NO, and the answer to #3 is YES. I'd be getting sucker red flags at this point. Hanging out is cool with me. Unspoken crap games are not. --------- Edit: On second thought, the sideways hug is just WEAK. I don't even HANG OUT with people who do that. On the other hand, maybe she is shy and this is a challenge for her that, nevertheless she's willing to take on. Relationships are nothing if not risky, so if she took the risk of telling me that, I might wait. But, if you want me, you're going to have to take some kind of risk. Period.
yeah and gender stereotypes are necessary for having relationships with people with genders. If you want to have some sort of weird relationship with non gender normal people and stuff, then yeah, throw them out the window. but if you want to date a girl then you have to treat her like a girl, otherwise she wont date you... next time you want to go out with a girl, try putting on high heels and inviting her to a sports bar and when she shows up call her BRO and give her a fist bump.
