Putting yourself out there

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by Muzicman, Apr 7, 2007.

  1. Muzicman

    Muzicman Member

    I've recently come to terms with my own homosexuality and made the decision to come out of the closet. It's taken a while for me to get to this point, so I'm really happy that I've made it here at all :).

    The problem is that I currently go to a very small tech school (only about 800 people) that is 90% male, and I personally know of maybe 3 other gay/bisexual people here. I really want to meet new people, but feel pretty lost; I don't really have any idea where to begin.

    I'm not really ready for a romantic relationship - I'm more looking for a fellow gay friend to talk to. So my question is: how did you guys enter into the community and meet others back in the day when you first started out? Was it as difficult as I'm finding it to meet other like-minded, gay people?
  2. Samhain

    Samhain Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

    do a net search for any gay groups, pubs clubs cafes and bookshops in your area, if your school has a net do a search on their to see if it has any gay groups.
    you can also look in your phone book for any gay support lines
  3. KewlDewd66

    KewlDewd66 Member

    Very good advice. You want to use all the resources at hand and 'get connected' ASAP.

    Never limit your scope unnecessarily. If you go around advertising that you are only 'looking for someone to talk with', which actually may not be completely accurate in the first place, you'll discourage a significant number of people, who will quickly perceive you as a sexually negative person... Not the way to enter a gay community.

    I'd be the last guy here to suggest that you should mess around indiscriminately. You always have the right to say 'NO' and that must always be fully respected. But never start a search with a big NO hanging all over...


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