Prostatitis And Still A Virgin At 26

Hi

At the age of 18 I was diagnosed with prosatitis which basically means that something as simple as going to the bathroom is very painful. And even worse is having an orgasm is like playing Russian roulette where I've ended up in the hospital because the pain was to much for my regular pain killers to take care of. Because of this I'm now almost 26, I've never had sex or really done anything besides kissing a girl once. In the beginning it was hard to accept but I was able to put a mental block so my sexual desire was basically non existent. But unfortunately I was stupid enough to go out with my friends one night and I met a girl, we started chatting all night an geniuenly had a great time. At first I didn't think it was possible, I'm not saying she is the perfect girl and that there is nothing wrong with her, of course we all have some baggage but she truly is the perfect girl for me. She even asked me out because I've been locked up in my apartment for so long I don't know how to read signals but we've now been out on two dates + we have also just been hanging out both just us and with friends and now I'm starting to get scared.

I really like her but how tha hell am I suppose to be able to have a relationship with a girl when I can't even masturbate without there being some risk of pain and a possible hospital visit. Hell I even have more wet dreams per month then masturbation. I know sex is a really important part of a relationship so I honestly don't know what to do here. It also doesn't help that the only girl I've ever kissed was at a party and stopped making out with me when she felt the outline of my erection. She told me I was a bad kisser and that since her ex was 8-9 inches and I was only 5-5.5 it would just be a waste of her time. It had been two weeks since last time she had sex so "I'm in the mood to get fucked not be a teacher, maybe another time" then she called up her ex and he came to the party and they had loud sex in the bathroom and everyone at the party had heard what she said so it got really awkward and I left. That really messed with my head but now I think I've finally met a girl that I would be comfortable losing my virginity to, but my health problems, penis size and also my inexperience, how can I expect her to just be okay with it. My best case scenario in my head is that I'm able to last 30 seconds and just feel discomfort, and that isn't really how I want my first time to be. I want to for once in my life feel like a man, I want to know what it's like to feel the touch of a woman but I just don't know where to start.

 

I'd start at a urologists office.

 

Apparently there is an 85% success rate with off-label use of this drug: http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/851302

 

Well first of all you need to tell her the truth. Best cast scenario she'll still like you. Worst case scenario, which isn't that bad, she won't like you anymore. It wouldn't be that bad, because if she's that shallow you're better off without her.

Weird scenario, she'll be totally into it and will just get herself off on you. This could happen, because girls are the most fucked up thing that ever happened.

Sounds like that first girl you met was a real piece of trash. You, however, seem like an interesting person. Don't sell yourself short. Like I said, girls are so weird you don't have to worry about it very much. Eventually there will be a girl who is like, "Oh he's got prostatitis that's SO cute xoxox!!!"

 

Ari's advice about a urologist is sound, though you've probably already seen one.

Acupuncture could help you. Maybe some dietary changes and doing a qi gong practice.

Not trolling could also cure you instantly.

 

yeah tell her all about your reproduction system problems and dick size on the 3rd date


girls just love that

 

I've been, and it's still on going but in reality there isn't much they can do other then pain management.

I know that I'm a totally messed up and broken person, hell I don't even consider myself to be a good person anymore. And I'm also a complete idiot when it comes to women but I was able to figure out that this would be a problem. Kinda why I was trying to get some advice to find a way to tell her since if I keep this going it's going to lead to sex and if I then reject her it's going to send mixed signals if I don't tell her why.

 

My husband told me of his urogenital problems during a phone conversation.

 

"also, I'm a complete idiot when it comes to women." Join the club, brother. Join the club.

I had a friend with diabetes and at some point he had a prosthetic installed in his penis in order to have sex. Perhaps the removal of your prostate and the insertion of a like device would enhance your life. He said it was always "hard", he just had to adjust it to whatever type of clothing he wore.

(Richard, my oldest and best friend died. Diabetes ate him up.)

 

^ sorry to hear that

 

Its strange that no one knows what causes the non bacterial version

 

The fucked up part is that while we don't know the cure for the non bacterial version (I got chronic and the only thing they can say is that it's got something to do with my prostate, pelivs and urethra which is why I feel pain after ejaculation), we actually do know about the cure. I'm on really hardcore medication and I'm pretty much a legal heroin addict at this point, but the cure is simple and non addictive. CBD from either cannabis oil or pure cannabis. It not only removes the pain like pain killers it will remove the pain I feel in my penis all the time (not just after going to the toilet or ejaculating).