So I have been trying to convince my wife for several years of the benefits of a naturist lifestyle or at least the occasional naked getaway. As established here, I am frequent nude hiker but have shied away from official nudist resorts for a variety of reasons ranging from “I don’t want to be the solo naked dude” to “I am always honest with my wife about where I am going.” When I hike nude, for example, she knows exactly where I’m going, she just doesn’t know I’m doing it au naturel. Partial withholding of information, you could say. But I am at the point where I really want to do social nudity and there’s no way to do that without being forthcoming with my wife about the nearby resorts and beaches I am looking to visit. I am simply not going to tell her I’m going someplace for a day and then go somewhere else instead. It’s just not how I operate. Anyway, over the past several days, I have pushed really hard for either visiting a nude resort as a couple or her letting me do it on my own. This is a “want” that goes to the deepest part of me. But she wants nothing to do with going there herself and although she recognizes that I am not seeking anything sexual at a nudist resort, she’s worried that others there might be and I could get pulled into it. Fair point. So as the discussion evolved, she basically told me she’s fine with me being naked around the house and would prefer that as an outlet for my nudist longings over visiting nude resorts with strangers. This morning before the kids were up, we both went downstairs for coffee and I enjoyed mine in the buff. But she was clearly uncomfortable with it all and the conversation started back up as I have no interest in making the love of my life feel awkward around me. Anyway, we ultimately decided that I get to be nude basically from the time I get home from work shortly before midnight (after she’s asleep) until the following morning. As it is now nearly summertime, that gives me lots of opportunity for late night skinny dipping and lounging around the house naked in a judgement free environment. Is it the perfect situation ... certainly not ... but I appreciate my wife’s understanding of the lifestyle I desire and doing her best to help at least partially fulfill it.
I sympathise with your situation, but I am impressed that you have gone out of your way to be completely honest with your wife and not go behind her back. I am fortunate that my wife is a fellow nudist, very comfortable with her body, and we can enjoy the nudist lifestyle in an honest and open manner. I know how frustrated I would be if I could not be nude either at home or in public! Sorry that I cannot be more helpful - I just hope that over time she can be more comfortable with your nudity both at home and going out in public.albeit without her. Paul
My wife tolerates my nudity most times. I have always slept nude even before I got married. I enjoy nude activities inside like cleaning and painting all while nude. I have tried for years to get my wife to be nude more often but she will not. I feel so free and natural while nude. I also like to go for nude hikes in the woods and to find a clearing and lay out in the sun. I'm in the same boat as Granite69 with my wife.
Excellent 90-minute nude swim tonight/this morning. Wife noticed my socks out there early this AM and said to me over morning coffee ... “try not to leave laundry out there next time.” It’s weird, but that really meant a lot to me. Fully-sanctioned home nudism. And if my wife goes to bat for me, it’s best to stay out of her way ... because she’ll go to war on my behalf and take no prisoners. Anyway, I’ve really been doing a lot extra around the house this week to show appreciation for her building acceptance of my nudism. But still, I find myself wanting to connect with other nudists. Weird psychological trap I’m in right now. Appreciating my wife more than ever but simultaneously exchanging nude non-sexual pix with other HF members.
I am nude around the home more often than not. Spouse isn't. My reason for being nude as much as I can is that I abhor wearing clothing. My nudity is accepted in my home and I respect others who visit by covering when appropriate. I also do public area activities in the buff which I keep to myself. While out in public I insure I have a cover if I encounter others who are clothed and might disapprove. There is no need to stir the pot with social or spousal concerns of my public nudity. I have no desire to do any social activities with other nude people. It's not that I'm against it, it's just something I do not need to do to enjoy being sans clothing. If I did wish to be with like minded people then I would have a dilemma before me. That dilemma would be spousal consent and approval. Not for my comfort, but for hers. I don't think she could come to grips that the interaction would be because of the enjoyment of being nude and no sexual connotations would be involved. Trouble is there would be sexual innuendo and possible activities associated with my nude contact with others. I would be unable to refuse such a proposition while nude as even clothed I cannot refuse. The sexual activities that I participate in with other women are also kept to myself. My spouse knows I have sex with other women but the details are kept private. Same as my naturist activities outside the home.
I was an "At home nudist" when I was single. When my now wife started spending more time at my place, I told her about it and would always be naked. I never expected he to join in. About a year into our marriage, she confessed that she hated when I was nude in the house (thanks a lot). So, now I wear boxers until she is out of the house. My advice to single nudists, Don't marry a textile.
Luckily I was able to get my wife into nudism after we started dating. I was that single guy nudist for a long time and on occasion would go to a nude beach or nudist resort when the opportunity was available. I also spent lots of time nude around the house and I also enjoy wearing speedo and thong swimwear when I can’t go nude. Like I mentioned, my wife (then GF) agreed to go to a nude beach with me while on a trip. She had never done this before but when we got onto the beach she took off her clothes once we got set up and she loved it. So for a while we would go to nudist resorts every summer and we also did a lot of things nude around the house. But now we have two small kids, so our nudist activities are very few and far between. We’re overdue for our next one.
Even for those of us who eventually succeed, it can be a long process. I "came out" to my wife when we first started dating. She was like: "Ok...you go enjoy the naked beach; I'll be home." That lasted the first few years. She wanted no involvement. But there were many discussions about it over time; and her willingness to at least talk about it ultimately made a lot of difference. There were some "adventures" here and there while on vacation; like going for a walk bottomless on the beach after dark, going for a quick skinny-dip, or staying naked in our room for breakfast. Just random quick "exercises in nudity"; but still something... After about 5 years, we decided to tie the knot. We didn't have a honeymoon planned, so we decided to do a 50/50. We'd do something I wanted to do; and then something she wanted to do. I picked a nudist resort. She agreed; but with some strong stipulations. She would stay covered, stay only for as long as she wasn't uncomfortable, and no socialization. Long story short: that only lasted for an hour. She found herself drawn to the pool area; and since it was nude-mandatory, she decided to lose the cover-up and be ok with everyone seeing her naked. But; it took years for us to get there. In the end it was worth it; but it took a lot of communication, compromise...and a boatload of patience.
I'm sorry to hear that you've moved on from your nudist activities. What would have been the problem with being nude around your kids?
We just don’t feel that nudism is something to involve our kids in, and are apprehensive about them being nude in public at this point in their life. The places we go to tend to be more adult-only. We’re not swingers, it’s more a thing of us not wanting to be nude around children, either ours or other people’s. It’s also a thing for my wife and I to go on our own to have a little escape from everyday life and relax without clothes. Plus if we’re feeling a little naughty, we don’t have to worry about the kids being around when the moment hits. Now when the kids are older if they have a genuine interest in nudism we might revisit that subject and consider going to a beach or family oriented resort together, but not when they are small.
My wife and I are nudists. We are members of a local nude resort. We got involved 12 years ago. After about 3 years we decided to,come out to our adult children. They were ok with it. They have all expressed interest in the resort and have experienced it also. Including nude beaches. But ....not with mom and dad. They are as are we uncomfortable around each other. We all agree if it was started earlier in their lives it'd be more acceptable now amongst each other.
Interesting story, I guess it makes things easier when the kids start younger, as opposed to waiting until they are adults and the odd feeling of everyone suddenly being nude in front of each other. I just think that our kids are too young for it right now, but maybe in a couple of years maybe we’ll see.
Families we've talked to at the resort tell us their kids adapted very well as youngsters. They are natural nudists. They say the puberty years become awkward sometimes.
It's ok to wait until it "feels right." My ex and I became "full-time" nudists at home and nudist resort/club visitors when our daughter was about 2. At that time we figured she was still too young for social nudity; and we still had a lot of questions about the "ethics" of bringing her into that environment. When she was around 3, we reconsidered; after chatting with some nudists who were encouraging us to bring her. We were still on the fence; but we decided to bring her for a "trial run", so to speak. After all, she already saw us nude every day; and was clearly comfortable with home-nudity. And at 3, her brain was developed enough to understand where we were going, and what was going to happen there. Long story short: she took to it immediately. She was more prepared for it than we'd actually imagined. I think the timing in our case was correct given our chosen way of life at home. Waiting longer is ok; but... Waiting too long can present some challenges. Kids that have gotten used to non-nudity can be resistant to that kind of change in their "reality." I was about 5 when my Dad took my Mom and I to a nude beach; without preparing me at all. And I was horrified lol! So you can imagine how a teen in that situation would react.
Agreed it would be a lot more awkward approaching it when they’re older. But if they are genuinely interested in it and come to us to ask about doing it, then I think that they wouldn’t have too much of a problem with being naked together- as opposed to my wife and I just coming out to them that we’re nudists and say “hey let’s all go to the nude beach together “ - that would probably traumatize them.
