What has been the most successful way of meeting bi guys? I have been looking for a FWB for awhile and no luck..and sights better then others? I found my last regular guy on CL but that is no more..
I don't think it's been asked enough. I've tried Doublelist and Grindr, am looking into other options, and would love to hear some other suggestions from guys here.
The last regular guy I had came from Silver Daddies, but we are no longer meeting. Its process if you are picky.
My advice is not to count on using social media, because many men who use it as their sole method of meeting others have a serious lack of social skills and are not ready for the FWB situation. And, a lot of them simply flake out at the last minute. For a first timer, I suggest preparing yourself for whatever your health and safety limits will be, physically going where men get naked around each other, and then take the plunge if you find someone you feel comfortable with. After a few safe encounters, you will gradually learn how to spot bi men in other situations and how to engage them in conversation. Meeting people in person, rather than on-line, takes advantage of 100,000 years of evolution in non-verbal communication, so you are more likely to find someone you actually have some chemistry with.
"After a few safe encounters, you will gradually learn how to spot bi men in other situations ..." I have been bi for nearly 40 years and cannot spot another bi man in general.
A bi man who finds you attractive will tune into your conversation. There tends not to be an insistence on averting eye contact or on maintaining distance. The body language will then be open, and time together will pass quickly. When you get to the point that a friendship is established and you offer a hug when you see him or say good bye, a bi man will sink into an embrace-- none of this A-frame stuff. That's what I observe in bi and gay men. Bi-curious men or bi men who are mainly genital-centric may not display these characteristics, and usually are much less open socially..
Any topic is fine, whatever is happening in your immediate environment. The topic does not matter. It's the eye contact and chemistry that matters. If a guy takes the time to talk and pay attention, then pay attention to him, and respond to his turns in the conversation. I had one conversation at a campground that started out being about my pickup truck and camper, and ended up with us making a plan to hike the river the next morning. Here is something to remember: bi guys who find you attractive will want to talk. You just have to initiate an innocuous conversation to see if he wants to talk. If not, no harm, no foul. If he does want to talk, the chemistry will become more and more apparent if he is bi.
There is some great advice here. Nonverbal communication is huge when it comes to connecting. By paying attention we can often spot the signs. To me what stands out in this thread are two things I do without realizing it. 1) When Im attracted to someone Im eager to talk to them. But usually too shy to take the lead. Instead I'll spend the entire time thinking of ice-breakers and hoping they will speak to me. It happens most often in the gym. 2) Those times when I do become friends with the person and hugs happen I tend to melt into the hug. Until now I'd no idea I was doing it. Hopefully knowing won't change me.
