Premature ejaculation

A question about premature ejaculation:

What do you think is happening when a man comes very quickly (within 5 thrusts) of entering a woman's vagina, but can last and last when having fellatio performed on him. (and yes the technique is good.) Is it like a forbidden thing to stick it in a pussy and so it makes him come quicker? Or what is going on?

 

It's not 'forbidden'; it's just more sexy. I've always lasted longer during oral.

Now, five thrusts is pretty short, is this man experienced?

 

For some reason, many man cannot cum from fellatio alone, but need to masturbate themselves to orgasm. Since a guy screws with his brain, not his penis, for some guys the insertion of the penis in the vagina triggers an intense feeling of warmth and enveloping ("warm apple pie?"), and triggers an orgasm. This can be retarded by using my 10 techniques.

 

Thank you Duck and Cutted,

for your replies.

Duck,

You wrote,

"It's not 'forbidden'; it's just more sexy. I've always lasted longer during oral." Now, five thrusts is pretty short, is this man experienced?"

Yes. He is 46 years old.

Cutted,

You wrote, "For some reason, many men cannot cum from fellatio alone, but need to masturbate themselves to orgasm. Since a guy screws with his brain, not his penis, for some guys the insertion of the penis in the vagina triggers an intense feeling of warmth and enveloping ("warm apple pie?"), and triggers an orgasm. This can be retarded by using my 10 techniques."

Thank you so much for your insights. I didn't know that "a guy screws with his brain", and and that "insertion triggers an intense feeling of warmth and enveloping." This makes so much sense! He knows that I love him so much and want him inside me.

Before finding this site, I had been reading up on the subject and never read this before. And yes, thank you also for your 10 techniques. I had read about a couple of these techniques-(though no list has been so all inclusive as yours). He has done a few of these already; taking himself out, or staying in and stopping and having me stop moving too, and deep breathing. He tries so hard. And I love him so much. We have lots of foreplay and he is a thoughtful, kind and gentle man and lover. It feels so good when he thrusts into me fast, and then it is over when he does this.

He can last for a long time with starting and stopping, but when he thrusts hard and fast is when he comes, and this is what I need to come, but it takes me longer. I'm hoping sometime I will be so aroused that, five fast hard thrusts will be all I need to come with him. I mean I am totally wet, and feel like I could come soon, but not on the verge with him.

It makes no difference either if he stays completely still and I move on him, it still makes him come. We have tried other positions as well. He on top, me on top, doggie style, side to side facing each other, side to side with him behind me, me on my back with one leg over his shoulder, two legs over his shoulders, sitting up facing each other and him kneeling and me in his lap that way.

We have been together for a year and three months. I think maybe there is something wrong with me because I am so aroused by him and wet, but I just can't come in 5 or 6 strokes. I can come when I masturbate in about two minutes, but it takes direct clitoral stimulation with my fingers. If he could last two minutes of thrusting without stopping, I know I would be right there with him.

Again thank you so much for your insights and I will go over your list again and we'll try some of your techniques.

 

Hi again cutted, (and others)

I just re-read the post I made above, and got to thinking about what I wrote in last paragraph.-(just above where I thanked you.) I believe I thought of something that might work, for me as well as many others! =-)

Remember you said, "A guy fucks with his brain?" Well I think women do too. If I were to watch porno for awhile before I saw him, and sat and thought about what I was seeing and pretended it was he and I up there on the screen and then when we got together, I could suck on him, which turns me on, and have him play with me, and then play with his cock and my pussy with my fingers which would excite me very much and then when I'm about to come have him stick his dick right into me and have him thrust like he does and then we might be able to come together. I mean maybe if I started way before him and was at the same place in arousal he was, then he wouldn't be "premature" and I wouldn't be "tardy" anymore!

 

A little advice. Well, not really advice, but the thing is... being able to last in bed is something that a guy can train himself to do, like an aquired skill. I'm 25, and because I've trained myself I can fuck any girl as hard as she wants, for as long as she wants and cum when I choose to. If I can do it, then your guy can do it too. At 46 your guy should've been a seasoned pro by now.

Anyways, the key is practice, practice, practice. It's almost like learning to squeeze and hold it in when you have to pee . So tell your guy to get on a sex training regimine.

 

Thank you xxaru,

for your thoughtful,and informative reply. I appreciate it very much.

"I'm 25, and because I've trained myself I can fuck any girl as hard as she wants, for as long as she wants and cum when I choose to. If I can do it, then your guy can do it too. Thank you for the encouragement.

xxaru, Do you find that if you really care for a girl, it is harder to hold back?

"At 46 your guy should've been a seasoned pro by now."

Yeah, I was wondering about this, but never asked him because I don't want to offend him. I love him and care about his feelings and don't want to hurt him. He is so sweet and tries so hard, I know with a few modifications in how I "get ready" things will improve a lot. I can't wait to try!

"Anyways, the key is practice, practice, practice. It's almost like learning to squeeze and hold it in when you have to pee."

This is very informative. I didn't know this. Thank you. =-)

 

No. It's all about practice and experience.

 

how do i PM?

 

i see you must donate in order to PM. anyway

@cutted

you sure seem to know a lot about this, and there are a few I would like to ask you:

I recently lost my virginty, and as expected, it was tricky. Very. I'll try to list it:

-My penis is very very curved. I don't think I have peyronies disease because there is no break, mass, whatever, i am 18 years old, and it is very hard everywhere most of the times, but it is very curved to the left. I'm not sure about degrees, but it is a lot. Now, the thing is, my GF didn't complain, we didn't even give it much thought, especially during. Still, I want to fix this. I don't like and well, it could be a lot bigger without this curve, allthough my GF says its quite big as it is. THe thing is, I think that this might be pejorative to the act itself. You see, we had a real hard time starting at first, because she was tight and all, but the curve i don't think was a problem mechanicaly, but it didn't help me much. You see i ejaculated very quickyl.... you see, i think this might be causing it i don't know. You see i didn't even know that the mechanichal aspect of sex, and what would give ME pleasure, would be the up and down movement of the foreskin, like if i was masturbating. You see once in, i assume that it straightenned out a bit, but doing so, this causes a let of "pressure" on it, i think, from being straightenned out, and that might have caused it. The thing is, i didn't conform, i kept going, it eventually got hard again, and suprisingly, my GF ended up orgasming after all, but still the problem remains, this can't go on forever, begginners luck i think, because it is very strainfull to come and get erect right away.
Question: anyone else have this condition, what is your experience with this, what should i do? and also, what kind of doctor do I see about this? Not just a urologist, I mean I'm not gonna talk about such graphic issues with him and especially not with my family doctor! maybe we should just talk to some "familly planning" nurse or something about all of this.

-At first, it was very painfull for me, foreskin wise! We had a hard time comencing even, I don't think i need circumcision because i was able to confortably pull the skin all the way back and masturbate, but upon entering the inner part of the vagina, i simply could not iniciate movement, i felt like my foreskin would rip if i did! This was without a condom. Round 2, with a condom, was slightlly easier and didn't hurt as much, and we managed to pull it off somehow, and the hole ejaculation/reboot/she orgasms thing described above happenned. Yes the relevance of this topic is questionable, but basically, my intention is, what are your thoughts? Is this normal? Are the pain and all these difficulties normal? Should I just be circumcised?

Also, see my other post about her kidney condition
http://www.healthboards.com/boards/showthread.php?p=4162274#post4162274

Try not to remove my question for being graphic or for seeminglly having no purpose other than to brag, because it does; we have soem serious problems here, and any help with be more than welcome.

In short:
-curved penis and premature ejaculation, could they be related?
-my foreskin hurts upon initializing penetration, should i be circumcised?
-what is your experience with all of this?
-what do we say to the doctor, and what doctor, if any!

that is what i posted in a health forum; i din't really get into it, because it really isn't as open as this forum seems to be. the thing is, sometimes i ejaculate fast, soemtimes i don't, but i really think that the hole "masturbate before" technique, is flawed, because i might not be hard then! and we plan on having sex without condoms, she is on the pill, and i don't wanna be cuming all over the place after a few seconds and then trying to get it up again everytime! also, because of the foreskin pain, i never actually pulled it back all that much, first because im almost afraid that it will come out and it will be hard to put it back in again, and because a lot of stretching will hurt my foreskin more.
i am asking as a paranoid idiot who is probabilly overreacting, but still, read that if you would and give me your thoughts. thank you in advance, Igor

rettyplease:

 

Any issues you have with your penis you need to see a urologist. There's no need to be shy about telling your problems as urologist handle all sorts of penile issues everyday. I guarantee you they've seen it all, so just make an appointment and get whatever you need checked out.

 

thats actually pretty helpfull, thank you

 

Igor - A curved erect penis is the most common type, so don't sweat it, and it has nothing to do with premature ejaculation problems. Vaginas are usually curved upwards, so a curved upwards penis matches well in the missionary position.

Sometimes the sensitivity of the glans on an uncut penis can contribute to premature ejaculation, but many uncut guys don't have this problem. So it is probably something else going on, like being 18 and just starting your sexual adventures and getting overly aroused. In time you will learn to control it by using some of the techniques i have outlined in this thread.

 

Hi Cutted, I have some problems in my sexual relationship i was wondering if you have an email address or a facebook add where i could tell you what it exactly is. I would be ever so grateful if you could help me. I cannot send you a PM on this website for some reason hence the reason why I am asking for other methods.

Regards

 

the thing that works. works within a day. will cure ur problem for ever. without any of this other bullshit stuff that doesnt work. is to take anti-depressant medication. it delays ejaculation. take it for a year, and ur problem is fixed forever.i take lexapro, the standard dose is 10mg. just take half, the side effects are minimal at that dose. and after 6 months maybe even take a quarter, depends on how quickly u cum. but yeah i taken for a bout a year now, i take a querter of a pill. and i fuck for ages. as long as one would want to fuck. and i can fuck hard too. not just softly for ages.but yeah was deffinatly worth it for me. nothing else will fix it.the only other thing i do, is if i ever batt, i will always take 30 miniits over it.but yeah, if u want a cure, theres ur cure.

 

That is absolutely horrible advice.

Strengthen your PC muscle, do the excercises all the time, what helped me is reading some thing on a website talking about "You can do the excercise at a red light." So if I havent remembered to do the excercise and I stop at a light I remember. It has helped me soo much, I used to cum quickly, the past number of times having sex I was wondering when I was going to, I just embraced the experience.

 

Mercedes10: Only Members can PM. It costs $10 or so to become a Member, and when you do, I would be happy to PM with you to discuss your problem.

 

This problem has been experienced by every guy at least once.

 

PMs can be done by Members, not Guests. Check the requirements.

 

What you state is already in my thread. And I am also the G Spot Master. PM me for more information on this technique.