I've begun to grow feelings for this guy in one of my classes. I'm a 16 year old Junior and he is an 18 year old Senior. For a while I considered him in the friendzone, but now I'm starting to actually look at him as more, which totally surprised me. I've known him for 2 years now, but we have just started talking this year. He is absolutely gorgeous, tall, baby blues eyes, the works; even a great personality which i've had trouble finding in guys lately. I know he likes me, so I know this will go someplace, but I'm worried about one thing. I'm a virgin and he's not. He really isn't. I know he's been around the park in all things sexual, so it kind of intimidates me. He has, what I consider, a lot of friend's with benefits. I'm just worried that when we do get together, he will possibly have expectations or whatever, that I will in no way be able to fulfill all that quickly. Has anyone else went into a relationship like this?
You should tend your own feelings and let him grow his own. Everyone has some anxiety about how one fits into the world but it is only because we try to answer questions that we can't answer.
Are you certain he is the one you want to take this step with? This is something you can never repeat with another person and if you are going to be considered as just another friend with benefits... I would suggest you may have some regrets after you've met someone who you do actually start carving out a serious relationship with. You can't take it back once you've given it... and find out those friends with benefits are still lingering behind the scenes.
Sounds like the only place he's interested in going is the bedroom. If you're cool with that, then hey who am I to stop you. But if you want more, I would go for a guy who doesn't have so many chicks hanging on him. Just my opinion.
You're 16. No virgin should be worried about their "performance" in bed. That will diminish the experience for you. I'm not gonna give you advice on whether or not to have a thing with this particular guy. That's none of my business, I don't even know you two and you're kids so that would be weird. But my advice as a woman, enter into sexual situations that you feel good about, feel relaxed and comfortable, physically and emotionally safe, etc. It's rarely if ever picture perfect and most intimate relationships get messy and a lot end badly, but there's no sense in doing anything that doesn't feel right at the time.
Lol no. Maybe I could have worded it better.... Some guys simply keep girls hanging around them. I've known really attractive straight men who don't keep women "on the line" so to speak, they are not playboys. And if they are, they keep their game tighter. This guy sounds like he has many fwb and at his age is probably more interested in that type of experience versus LTR's. This girl seems to take issue with that otherwise why mention it? Unless she is looking at it from a competition stand point. I go for the cute quiet type, or the one thats more private/reserved. A guy flaunting sexual relationships with multiple girls is a turn off for me.
Never, ever do things in bed to fulfill someone's expectations! When you do decide to have sex, only do things you enjoy and you wanna do. I'm not saying you should never do things to please your partner. That will naturally happen. But it is totally different if you become someone sexually only with the idea of pleasing a guy, of competing with other women. Don't sexually abuse yourself. If you'd start to have sex now and already be rushing to please someone, you'd perhaps make decisions you'd regret. When you start to have sex, take it easy. It's your own terms, not somebody else's. When you're an adult, do all you want in bed, with as many partners as you want, if you feel like it: but on your own terms, not to please some guy, not to compete with other women. Take care.
