Popularity

how important is it?

 

I heard it's pretty important for 14 year olds.


For me personally, I could care less who likes me as long as I have the people I am close to that like me... few friends, family, etc.- That's all that's important to me.

 

It depends, it's got less important as I've got older. This is my, deal with it, that's my attitude now.

 

totally pointless, unless your talent happens to be some sort of performance entertainment.

and then there are like agents and things for that.

 

Looking around the HipFora, I'd say it is pretty important.

 

i'd say its pretty popularly believed to be. that isn't quite the same thing.

it just seems more to suggest that this place isn't mensa.

 

I am sure a lot of mensa people would gladly trade a few IQ points in exchange for some popularity.

 

only idiots would give themselves a name close to menstruating..

 

While it is not politically correct to say that popularity is important, it is. There are very few can handle a life totally on the outside as far as social interactions. Some people may need less "connectivity" than others but they usually still require interaction with others.

By popularity, I am not referring to having adoration or groupies. Popularity is even within the framework of family, employment, friendships actually most interaction we have with others.

 

Ideally, we would say that it isn't important at all and we are nothing if not true to ourselves, etc, etc. But unfortunately, it matters more than we'd like to admit. Not just popularity but what people think of us. I include that because it's fairly closely related. If I didn't make sure that customers thought well of me, I'd probably be replaced. If you want to get something accomplished in terms of business deals, etc....who you know and what they think of you matters. I could go on but you get the gist. How it affects your conduct is up to you.

 

Everyone likes to be liked.

 

I want to be liked by people I like.

 

I think the pope likes you..

 

Okay.

 

I think you are defining popularity differently than I am and probably some other people are. Of course having social interactions-people to connect with, etc. are important.
But I don't define that as popularity. I define popularity more like having admirers (or groupies) and having lots and lots of people like you, look up to you...admire you...whatever.

 

It was kind of the point of the thread, it is human nature to want to be liked. But I think the majority of people want to be liked even by people that they dont even like or would not even want to associate with. Kind of a sucking up just to be in the "in" crowd. I would say I see that alot on the internet.

 

I don't care about popularity in a hierarchal high school sense, but I do enjoy being well liked. I also deal with enough assholes in my life to know I don't want to be one. I don't want to make people feel uncomfortable or hurt. I want to put people at ease, make them laugh and make them happy.

 

Lorna, yea, that does exist a lot on the internet. The internet can be a lot like high school. It seems a lot of people really haven't moved much past that mentality.

Anyways... yea, of course I like to be liked. But I guess the thing for me is... I have people that mean a lot to me that do like me and I like myself and think I'm a nice person and a good person... so, basically I feel that enough people-the right kind of people-should and do like me and anyone who doesn't... I don't worry about them or try to get them to "like me" because I feel that that's their problem if they don't. And also that it's not even my business if someone doesn't like me, as I don't like everyone else either and it would be kinda weird if everyone liked everyone, so I don't worry about what "everyone" thinks of me. If that makes sense.

 

I think I see it in a broader sense. I did not view it as only in admirers or groupies as those are not things most of us deal with in real life. Well maybe admirers but not groupies.

For example I worked with a woman who was really intelligent but was socially awkward. While some in the office took the time to know her many did not and that does change how someone is perceived. It is not necessarily fair but it is what happens. There were promotions that she was more than qualified for but was not considered for.

 

Yea, I can see what you mean about the workplace. I think I'm not thinking of stuff like that because it's been 6 years since I've worked outside the home, as in addition to being a stay at home mom to Cason my last two jobs were a home daycare and teaching flute lessons at home (currently). But yea, I do remember exactly what you are talking about.