poly/open relationships

Anyone here in an open or poly relationship? I'm not even dating anyone currently but I'm curious about experiencing open/poly relationships.

 

Well, my wife and I are presently opening up our marriage, We both just finished reading the book “The Ethnic Slut”. It is an eye opener and empowering. Now we don’t know what took us so long,

 

Interesting

 

My wife and myself are in a poly relationship. She has a steady boyfriend. We enjoy it.

 

i never been in a poly relationship before but i wouldnt mind being in one

 

Same here. I would consider it.

 

My wife does too.

 

For many monogamous couples, society and religion has controlled them for hundreds, if not thousands of years. Brainwashed. Once you free yourself of this indoctrination, you open up to whole world of sexual adventure. My wife and I have discovered this a bit late in life. It’s ok to play with other couples. We are in the process of searching for the right match. That’s the difficult part for us at our age. But we are both ready.

 

My wife is learning that its fine to love me and Ben.

 

We entered into an arrangement after long discussions were held about her having to forgo sex and myself being still very virile. Sex columnist Dan Savage shared a similar arrangement he has with his long-term partner where they're committed to each other but allow sex with others. He coined the term monogamish. Since my spouse cannot provide we agreed I find other women for sex, but only sex. There is no romance, no sharing lives outside having sex, no strings. I find a partner, enjoy having sex with her, and return no questions asked. For this agreement to work, we both had to be honest about who we were and what we wanted sexually.

 

My wife has been seeing a friend of ours for a while now
I fully approve. Sometimes he stays the night, Sometimes he stays a couple of hours. Becky loves him, and its not dirty or shameful.

 

Yes, my partner and I opened up our relationship to another woman several years ago, partly for my partner to explore her bisexuality but mostly just because as a 3 everything worked so well. We have now taken steps to legally formalise the relationship.

We were never looking or anyone else to join us, any sexual play with others outside our relationship is all discussed and agreed on. This is mostly for my benefit as I frequently have sex outside the relationship for a few different reasons. However, recently another woman has joined in our relationship and we are all fully committed to each other. She is like a final piece in a jigsaw puzzle bringing us everything we want and need with her different approach to sexuality. We are now complete and it is a wonderful lifestyle.

 

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There’s no planned romance, but it’s not impossible that you fall for someone you’re just having a fling with or they for you.

What then?

 

I only ask because this happened to me once.

Once we realized that in between all of the fabulous, no strings fucking, we had a lot in common, laughed a lot and were very comfortable around each other.

Then of course it got complicated.

 

Then everything changes. How it would change can't be predicted ahead of time.

Marriage does not come with guarantees.

 

Agreed, but most successful ones don’t come with open doors either.

Not knocking it mind you, just think life is complex enough already.

 

Not to be pedantic, but your spell checker got the title wrong. It's "The Ethical Slut", by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Still considered the bible of nonmonogamy.

 

It sure as hell is!

 

Correction noted. That book changed my wife’s thinking of consensual non monogamy. We now enjoy others in our bed.