Hello, So basically I'm dating my 26 boyfriend, and I'm currently 19. It freaks me out that he's older than me and has probably had a much better sex life than what I can offer I'm 5'7 and about 220 lb. No one ever believes I'm that weight because I'm a lot of muscle but I do have a belly, and big butt on me. Everything else is pretty decent. The main problem that I'm having is that he is average sized, and I'm plus sized so things like sex laying side by side doesn't work because he always slips out or something? So what I'm asking for is for any advice on: 1) What can I do about him slipping out, or not fitting because of my big butt in side by side sex? (It's really nice and I'd like to be able to do it more) 2) What are some normal, but sexy positions I can use so that we're not as boring? We use missionary, doggie (but again my butt can be too big and make it difficult), a lot of foreplay, and a few other positions but I'd like to stop being so boring for him. I'm not a huge fan of doing weird stuff on top and am not sure about having to like wrap my legs around his shoulders or something. 3) I also have an innie nipple and I find it really embarrassing! I think he knows about it but we've never talked about it because I'm so embarresed. He really loves boobs but I'm way too shy to let him touch mine because he loves nipples. What do I do? - A college student with a very low self esteem
There is nothing weird about the girl on top . You might try doggie . You might look at the kama sutra see it there is any pose there you like . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doggy_style http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kama_Sutra
Alaska, there are many ways to look at your problems. One of them: if his cock slips out of you in some positions, it isn't because your butt is big. It is because his cock is small. What I'm trying to say is that, right now, you have the body you have, and so does he. You're together, he knows your size, like you know his. If you can't do certain things, it's just the way it is and you both have to accept it. Is he complaining? You are the way you are. You shouldn't go on guilt trips for being the way you are, just like he shouldn't go on guilt trips because his cock is the way it is. Sex that isn't boring will depend on him, too. Let him know you're up to trying new positions, and see if he comes up with something. For side by side, if he'd position himself lower, as related to you, than he's positioning now, he could have his pelvis below the bulkier part of your butt. Try that. For other positions, you could try stuff like having your hips on the armrest of a couch where you'd be laying. He'd be standing on the side of it, holding your legs high (about 80 degrees with your pelvis) and fuck you so. He'd be a little too high and the bending forward and lowering down would give him a better angle to avoid the bulkier part of your butt. Do you think that could work for you? What about you laying a bit on your side, one leg on the bed, the other up. He'd penetrate you from the side, instead of being aligned with you. I know it is easily said than done, but don't go on guilt trips. For your own health, losing weight could be a good idea, but that's for you to decide. It isn't easy. Could you try to lose your inhibitions a step at a time? Men get a kick of being with women without inhibitions in bed. Why don't you work on that? Have fun.
You shouldn't be so against being on top. It feels really good. Don't worry about your weight. He knew what you looked like when you started dating. If it were an issue for him you would know it. If he's having a problem staying in during doggie style try spreading your legs more or putting your chest lower onto the bed with your butt higher. Try laying with your butt right at the edge of the bed and have him hold your legs straight up or a little towards you. If the bed isn't high enough stick a few pillows under you. I love that position. It hits some great spots. You could also try laying missionary position but cross your legs "indian style" and have him push them towards your chest a little. It opens everything up for him. Anytime you are in the missionary position and he can push your legs back towards your chest it feels good. Lose your inhibitions and have fun. If it feels good do it. If it doesn't feel good or its not working don't worry about it. Try something else. Sex is supposed to be fun and feel good. Don't worry so much about what he is thinking about you or your body. He obviously enjoys having sex with you because he continues to do it. Hey, if all else fails have him give that nice big booty a slap. That will turn things up a notch Have fun and good luck.
The first thing you (OP) should really be focusing on is your low self-esteem. I know many larger women who would never let their size impede their enjoyment in the bedroom. They wouldn't make a bunch of excuses as to why they won't do something. No, instead they love themselves, their curves, and learn how to use them to their advantage. Your size isn't necessarily what makes you sexy, your attitude about your size is. Embrace your larger ass, and curves! Some men love larger women. No amount of advice on positions is going to solve your problem until you can accept yourself as a desirable, and sexually confident/desirable woman. So try to love you for who you are, and sex should be more fun. When you can do that....It won't bother you to spread your ass cheeks/thighs so your lover can get better access, it won't upset you that your nipples are innies because they still bring you pleasure...and every man or woman I have known enjoys nipples because it turns on their partner more than the feel of the 'perfect' nipple in their mouth (there is a whole breast to play with! Use it!), and it won't bother you to throw your legs over his shoulders if it feels good when you do it. Otherwise no position is going to turn you into some sex goddess in bed. I haven't met many men turned on by woman who are extremely insecure about how good they are in bed, or a dreaded bit of tummy roll they keep trying to hide by avoiding positions, etc. I have however known many who love a woman who truly enjoys sex. You don't want to bore him? Get hungry for sex! Spread your legs wider, pull your ass cheeks or thighs apart, show him how much you desire him. Trust me, if you show him that you are hot, horny and hungry for him...he will find a way to make it work. Just my two cents..
There is nothing more sexy then someone who is secure and confident with themselves! Own who you are and the rest will come naturally. It doesn't matter what size you are or what you look like there are plenty of people out there that would love to have fun with you if you feel good about yourself and show it.
:iagree: I'm also in agreement about your self esteem. They're is NOTHING wrong with you. I'm curious to know how he interacts with you. While it's important for you to show him how bad you want him, it's equally important for him to make you feel desirable and sexy. If he's already trying to do that, then embrace it! Go find some sexy lingerie that flatters your body type, and get comfortable in your own skin. Life's too short for insecurities.
I am still wighting for the o.p. of this thread to make a follow up comment . I mean no disrespect to an insecure young lady , if that is who wrote this post , but I am thinking more that it is a troll post .
I have to agree with these reply's. My wife is about your size. We have no trouble at all adjusting to whatever position we each feel we want to try. If creativitivity is what you are wanting, there are always ways to get there. Sex on a workout aerobic ball is a blast!! Many poisitions from that one. You should enjoy being on top. My wife prefers it. Oh, I am of about average build myself, so she is bigger than mayself and 14 years younger. Our sex life is a blast. We talk, make each other laugh and have fun with it no matter what position is happening.
