Hey everyone, first time poster here! I'm after females opinions about my 'junk' here. I am a male who's penis is about 5" long and 3" in circumference. I understand this is below average for a guy, and as a result I am VERY self conscious about sex and have therefore never had it. I have also never been in a relationship as it just seems that girl want sex on the first date nowadays and I feel that due to my inadequacies they would just leave as soon as they see. Am I being stupid here? I really do want a serious answer because it's killing me seeing my friends be with someone they love (never mind the sex part), because I want that. Sorry if this is a weird question or anything...
If a chick won't wait for you to be comfortable to have sex, and if she leaves because of your size (which is fine, mind you, I've dated smaller) then you can basically write off her opinions on you anyway. The only people who will judge you for being "below average" are the kind of people you might not even want in your life. I know I don't. If I ever get judged on my chest size, I'm the one walking away. If you just want to get laid then you don't really have to stress about what she thinks about you afterwards. If you want a commitment, then you honestly don't have to worry about sex on the first date or her judging your size - when it comes to REAL commitment with someone you've taken the time to actually like, it doesn't matter that much. (Again, it does to some people, but screw those kinds of people.)
I wish I could find the comic I'm looking for right now. It's one with the guy berating the girl for not shaving down there. "You really should fix that, it's a problem, I don't see why I should have to put up with your inadequacies... Are you even listening?" "Oh goodness, no. See you!"
Sex on a first date? I wouldn't date a guy who wanted sex on first date, so I understand. Too many young women think they need to have sex to get a guy to stay. (Then complain when they end up with stds or pregnant and the guy is gone. Or he dumps her because he found another fuck buddy.) Sex can be a wonderful thing when you are with someone you care about. Wait for the right person. When I dated my hubby, I used to worry about what he would think about me and how I'd react to him. Everything worked out fine. That's the power of love! So don't worry, and enjoy the dating scene. There are two types of women (generally speaking). Those who are players and those who are keepers. Same goes for men. You seem to be a "Keeper" so you should look for another "keeper."
Don't worry, it will grow bigger once she rips her clothes off. Just kidding. Just date all the girls you can and everyone who says they want it the first date, or even the second date, dump them. They would be the ones who have already been with others the same way, cheap and easy, and you are gonna pick up something. Those who will wait for at least ten dates or even several weeks or months cared to meet you, not size you and by then when you have sex she already wants You and all that's about you so she won't care about size and if she does,,, well better she run and leave you for the next good lady. Seriously, the only time size worries me is if they are big enough to think their dink will do everything I need and they Don't need to know or do anything else. Sex is about the pleasures of touch, wanting each other, trusting each other, and most of all, when it comes to sex itself, knowing and learning tricks to please each other, worry about that. Your size is fine.
Just keep dating until you find that right someone. It's a weeding process. Your penis size isn't an issue, being with the right person is.
tamworth apparently. seems to be one in the UK and one in australia. anyway, i think i know what he means. people these days don't really date at all; they randomly have sex and then if they like it they become a couple. at least i assume that's what he's referring to.
I didn't understand. You do want sex, but are insecure about your size, or you don't wanna sex, because you think sex on a first date is wrong? Everybody has the right to say no. If you don't wanna have sex, just say no to it and women have to respect that. It isn't as if they would force you. With the offer of men who want it out there, why would a woman force you? If you do wanna have sex, but your hang ups about your size are keeping you from enjoying the opportunities you've got, then, two things. First: no offense, but you're vain and shallow yourself, because you're the one who measured your penis and you're the one who has a problem with its size. Just avoid people as vain as yourself and you'll be alright. Second, whatever size it is, there's a huge range of people out there who like different aspects of sex. Individuals who are assexual, low libido, who prefer oral, or fingering, or who are in love with the guy will overlook anything size wise. They sell penis gloves in sex shops that you can use during sex, to give her the feeling of having sex with a more endowed man. You have a problem you've created yourself. Why did you measure it? Why did you make penis size such an important issue? Whatever aspect of you, try to learn to accept yourself as you are. Nobody will please everybody. The sad thing is when you can't accept yourself.
Perhaps he should watch less tv and more at real life. Not saying it doesn't happen all the time of course but to say only or mainly... is pretty much absurd.
No need to worry my friend. Unless you have a micro penis which falls under 3" or less, the tool you have will do fine for any female, unless she is a loosey goosey, which you want to steer clear from anyway. You need to be confident with what you have. It won't change so learn to love it.
You need confidence. It's best when you create it for yourself .. don't rely on others to give it to you. Stop comparing your "junk" to other people. 5 isn't bad. And quit calling it "junk". Change the way you think about yourself. No you aren't being stupid.
5' is actually a very common size. I'd say most guys have that size. The g-spot is typically 3 inches in as well, so you should be able to hit it just fine. I am sure there are plenty of women who will be totally okay with your genitals.
I agree with the poster that says to be confident with what you have! I also know that most of the men I have slept with were around 5inches or only slightly bigger. I did date one guy that was smaller. We never had sex, but I don't think we could have. I've never been with a guy that was extremely huge, or what I would consider above average.
Its not about what you have and more about what you do wit it. And im sure there are girls out there who like to give it months to a year.
Size matters to some degree, but knowing how to use it well matters more. If you worry about your size, then work on mastering other techniques. Get good at foreplay, oral, etc and most women won't even notice your size...they will just remember how great you are in bed. Sex is much more involved than how many inches you have....
I think 5 inches is just fine. It seems like too many men think they need a 10 inch cock, they believe that women think that's better. Seriously, anything over 7 inches over kill and can be very painful. 5-7 inches is perfect. I've been with men who are smaller and it wasn't so much their size but their knowledge and how to make sex meaningful for both, women need to know that too... Most women are not going to be taking a tape measure into bed with them.
You aren't doing that bad really. You worry too much. Plenty of guys got worse "image" issues than that. Afraid you have worried yourself into nothing and nowhere - and they are right about not finding your person without doing some shopping. Rejection is only so frustrating and well worth some quality time when you find it.
