Hello. I know I'm new here but, I'm kind of in a bit of a crisis. My girlfriend plans on taking my vCard soon. I'm ready, but there's a couple things I have questions about. My girlfriend warned me that she's very tight and that it might be awkward trying to fit it in. My question is, what if she is "too tight" and I can't fit it in? What's the best way I can react without looking like a derp. I'm also a little nervous about having sex and was wondering what's the best possible way to ensure I have the least awkward first time experience ever. I'm also curious to how long I will last. Maybe some of you can tell me how long you lasted your first time. Any help ASAP is greatly appreciated.
I assume you're in high school, in which case not being able to fit in will probably earn you a decent reputation. Just enjoy it. You're either going to cum almost immediately, or you're not going to cum at all because you're nervous. It takes a few times to really figure out what you like, how to move... all that stuff. Just enjoy yourself.
If you are serious. Here's what I can tell you having had sex for the first time not all that long ago... 1. If she's actually very tight it might actually be a bit hard to get it in at first. The first time I tried to have sex he couldn't get it in and it hurt really bad. I ended up having to give him a blow job instead which he appreciated of course but I felt pretty bad about it. It took two more tries and on the third he got it in and it hurt really bad I was literally involuntarily trying to escape even though I really wanted him to fuck me. It wasn't awesome at all. For him or for me. And at least in his case he was the type of guy who didn't get off on the aggressive stuff so he actually had trouble staying hard when he knew I was in real pain. 2. After that first time it starts to get better really fast. Just keep at it. And before you know it you'll both be fucking like pros. Seriously, it's not rocket science, people have been figuring out how to do it for a long time. 3. How long you last will really depend on a lot of things. If my boyfriend has masturbated recently he'll last a long time. Or if we just had sex a little earlier and we are on our second run of the day. Or just how turned on you are in your head. Sex is a good 75% mental for me. And my boyfriend says it's pretty close for him too. The more turned on you are mentally the shorter the time you'll last. 4. You're obviously really young, in which case if you cum really fast. Just get hard and go for another round. The first guy I had sex with could literally fuck me 3 times in row with very little stopping in between. It's probably the main thing I miss about fucking guys that were my age.
Please let me also add a couple more things. My girlfriend isn't a virgin and as far as I know, she's experienced. As I said before she claims to be very tight. I'm very nervous that I will be one of those 2 pump chumps. Do you think that if I rub one out out like thirty minutes before I have sex will help? I will also be using a condom. Idk if that will enhance my chances of lasting longer. Thank you guys for all your answers!
Ah, didn't realize she was more experienced. Either way though I feel like it doesn't really matter if you last a long time or not the first time. If she's experienced and especially if she knows you are a virgin then she's gonna be cool with it being fast on the first round. Get it back up after and go for it again. As a girl I can say that if I make a guy cum really fast it's actually a compliment. I don't decide he sucks or something like that. What I'm saying is, don't sweat it. The first time you'll suck a bit probably. That's pretty normal and if she likes you she isn't gonna care one bit.
Unless she's wet as hell and you'll have a bottle of lube on hand use the lubricated ones. Condoms are not slippery on their own.
Take a deep breath. If people are honest, the first time is rarely great - it's usually awkward and nervous. That doesn't make it bad - it just is what it is. Communication: before and during is very important. If you can't tell her what you've said here, then you might want to consider waiting. You should feel comfortable about expressing your fears to her before, and asking her what feels good for her during. If you can do that it will make the experience much better. Foreplay - don't rush it! Kissing (everywhere) lots of breast and nipple play and some cunnilingus (if you think you're ready for that) will help make her wet. The wetter she is, the easier it be to penetrate. Ask he what she likes with foreplay - every girl is different - my wife goes wild when I suck her ear lobes - crazy but true. "Rubbing one out" before can be beneficial, but sometimes it just doesn't make a difference. As someone mentioned above - most of it is in the mind. Don't worry about it, if you come fast, go back to foreplay or try something else - if you're turned on you'll get it back up quick and the second run will be better. If you're super worried about this make sure you control the thrusting (you on top in either missionary or doggy). If I feel like I'm too amped up I'll pull out and go to cuni. She might be "mad" for a second or two, but she gets over it quick! If she is tight - get lubed condoms. Having some extra lube on hand will really help as well - and worth the money if needed. A water-based one is best. Finally - take a breath again and don't rush it. No one is a natural sex god their first time. Getting good at sex takes practice, practice, practice. Remember that it's not just physical, but mental as well. Find out what turns her on before and during (and after if she is willing to talk honestly about it). Talking about turn-ons before hand can be a good prelude in and of itself. Hope that helps, good luck and be sane and safe.
probably to stay a virgin. i think losing one's virginity is pretty much a guaranteed awkward experience. off topic: i'm going to start using "looking like a derp" in everyday conversation.
On top of the few great advices, I like to add one more (if I'm not too late) ;-) You should know how long it'll take you to become hard again after you masturbated. So if you have an hour or so before you meet her, release your load. This will allow you to be more relax, and (possibly) last a little longer. (And if you have a week or more to go, take some Vitex. It will lower your sex drive and prolong your session.) Good luck ;-)
LOL, at this thread, most advice so far seems to be along the lines of just relax, just enjoy yourself, I'm sure thats how it went for all of you the first time And this gem: Seriously, how effective do you think a herb extract is going to be in lowering the sex drive of some guy in high school?. The only clinical use of vitex is for PMS
Telling someone they should relax and expecting it to be easy to do so isn't the same thing. I was pretty clear that my first time was kind of awful, but that it gets better really fast. So my point wasn't that he should relax and it'll be great, but that if it isn't he shouldn't sweat it too much. Or maybe I'm just totally misunderstanding what you said.
As far as with me is concerned, it worked well. I was away for a one month business trip last year and I don't want to cheat. So I read about Vitex (also known as Monks' Pepper) and I bought a bottle from GNC. It worked well for me. The first effect was observed around week 2. I no longer crave sex as much as I used to. Then after I returned a month later, I realized I can last longer, yes, double the period I used to. (But this "greatness" wore off after about 2 weeks.) PS: Yes, Vitex was clinically used by women to help their fertility. But when consumed by man, at least by me and some males in another Forum, as well as many articles from Google, it did help reduce sex drive.
