Like anything else, the fun wears thin and you try something different. We have both used toys, alone and on each other. We stumbled onto something that turns her on. Its playing gay, with our toys. My wife was always facinated with the NYC Gay Lifestyle. We have many gay friends and business associates which led to my wifes interest . One of her favorite things to do was to "play gay" with her and her toys. Hey, if it got her into having sexual fun, I was open to it. I had no idea how much she enjoyed the domination aspect and watching my lips wraping around her strapon cock and down my throat. She told me that she had an orgasm while feeling the power of her cock penetrating my asshole. I discovered the bigger the cock hungry slut I became , the more it worked her up. I let her take it wherever she wanted to go. It did lead to doing it for real. I learned if you want to keep having fun, Don't be shy with the wife and do as she wishes.