Plagued by memories of great sex with an ex

I was joking around.

It was on an episode of SEINFELD, where George slept with a married woman and said, "Oh my God...I committed adultery!"

She said, "No you didn't. *I* did."

And since it was George, that was all it took to make him feel better.

 

Yes. I was married for over 20 years and the sex was amazing, fun, experimental. The couple people I’ve been with since I’ve been divorced have been ultra conservative and actually got turned off when I suggested anything radical... and as I adical, I mean merely a sex toy or having them go down on me.

And I know that I am always freshly showered, smell and taste ok. It’s been disheartening.

 

Oh yes almost every day I think about one imparticular, Lucy a hispanic girl. She was the most pleasing individual a man can know. When she stayed over we would go to bed and she would use my dick like a pacifier to fall asleep. She was not ever pushey,She always asked politely can I suck your dick again. I really never refused. There are many others but she stands out.

 

Now that sounds incredibly hot! No wonder you’ve never forgotten her!

 

My very first fwb. It was sex only but I was insanely attracted to her, and having sex with her was addictive.
To the point it was because of her I started shaving my penis and balls, I started trying things to make my penis bigger because she absolutely loved my size and when we were together sex was on her mind all the time.
I often masturbated thinking about her.
she was the first woman who made me experience that orgasm from intercourse is real. She made me realize that there are women who love giving oral. My ex used to do it more like a duty.

I was falling for her and she was coming around also, I always thought of having a relationship with her. But I handed up pulling away because she was very intense and high strung, things would have become toxic.
But man, she ever woke up the sex maniac in me.

 

I had one that I will call a very significant friend with benefits although she was not the last.
We had the same sexual texts, the same desire to please each other and receive.
We were looking for same things when it comes to sex, we were almost perfect partners.
By far, she is my very best sexual partner I ever had, I miss the sex with her and also I miss being with her at times, we were attracted to each other and falling for each other but we knew we were not the right partners in life.
We ended up on a positive note and kept in touch.

 

I hear that. I went through that for a long time with one of my exes. She was phenomenal in bed but a absolute nutcase everywhere else. The thing is though, this feeling went away (mostly) when I found the one. I still think about that ex sometimes and my wife is not in the same league when it comes to sex, but I don't l don't long for her (my ex) no more. Making love to my wife is a much more fulfilling experience. Sex with my ex was more carnal and raw. I am 100% much happier now though! It was, what you can call a 'toxic relationship'.

 

Kind of a similar thing with me, except sex with my wife is awesome as well. My wife exceeds my one ex in many, many categories! However, my one ex was incredibly nimble and athletic in bed and could fuck my brains out for hours on end. She was a fricken machine that wouldn't unplug! And that's the part that takes me back to the days of yesteryear. However, years later i saw my ex and she really, REALLY let herself go. Did not age well in the least. And of course at that point I could care less as I have the one that satisfies my every desire. Well, nearly every desire.

 

I remember excellent sex, but do not think badly about it. The best sex I ever had by a long way was with someone whose home life was such that I was not willing to be a part of it, so ended the relationship, reasonably amicably though we are not in touch.

 

Yup know that exactly. First woman i was with when I was 19. Will never forget her.

 

Likewise.
I am 55, sex with my 2nd wife is quite good actually... but no woman I have ever had holds a candle to a girl back in HS over the summer of my senior year. She was a sex machine. Wanted to do it all... actually loved to give head and swallow.
Never had anyone else like her.... and never will.

 

This is pretty common, right? I have flashbacks like this all the time, depending on my mood. I don't see it as a negative tho since it turns me on nonetheless.

 

Not to throw a bummer on it... but it's true... the girl that was the best I ever had killed herself 6 years ago.
Many years after I knew her. I did use to occasionally masturbate to thoughts of her, but not since she died. Pretty sure that would be a huge disrespect to her.

 

Hot model type I worked with at a hotel in England in 1990 when I was 18 came on to me and we had regular sex and fun times together. Openly had a relationship at work. Her mom also worked there. Knew me, liked me, knew I was fucking her daughter. Group of us from work regularly went out together, including her mom.

Here's the kicker: she had a fiancee at the time. Everyone at work knew it. Obviously her mom knew it. Work friends threw her a birthday party. I was there, her mom was there, her fiancee was not. I was the one dirty dancing with her. The bus we would take to my place literally went outside his place, she had to duck when we went past.

We broke up amicably as she was going to be moving to NZ with her fiancee and I was going back to Ireland. She ended up marrying someone else. I am happy with my wife and life but I do still think about her. Thankfully she has been a friend on Facebook the last couple of years. Yes, my wife knows. Yes, she is totally cool with it and knows everything about her.

 

I ran into an ex a couple months ago. We talked about the past and the present. Then, out of the blue, she asked if I still WANTED her. I told her I didn't because I couldn't just keep desiring something I couldn't have because it would drive me crazy. She said, "What if you could have it?" I said, "I'm married now." She said, "If I got naked right now, you wouldn't fuck me?" She grabbed my cock and said, "I'm willing to bet you would." She gave me her address and told me to come by after my wife had gone to bed. I thought and thought about it then went over. She answered the door in an oversized button down flannel shirt. Nothing else on. Didn't even think about it. Fucked the hell out of her. I told her I wouldn't want to get back together because I was married and didn't want to upset a good thing. She said, "Then we can keep it a physical relationship." We will see about that? It's my experience, women can't be just fwb. There are exceptions but generally speaking.

 

Not a lot, but sometimes.

 

That's not uncommon, in fact that's why we go back sometimes to see what we had. Not that we want back together. It's just a easy thing, used to each other.

 

I had some awesome sex over the years with both sexes and I still fantasise about those times. However I know I can’t go back there. I just make better times with who I’m with now. Be adventurous. Let her do whatever she wants to you. Fulfill your every desire with her and those memories will just compliment where you are today.

 

Absolutely. And it can be a stigma to live with. My best sex with an ex was my first wife who also was my first girlfriend. She was amazing and did things to me in bed I've never even seen in porn. I tend to use her to measure all the other women since her . I feel your pain.

 

The lady I'm seeing now has confessed her memories of an ex 35 years ago who was ten years younger than her but was hung like a horse.