i like guys who are intelligent, but not arrogant know-it-alls. i like guys who respect women, but don't have any neurotic hang-ups about sex, a guy i know isn't going to be a pig about sex, but will still be fun, playful, and open, even a little kinky. or more than a little kinky. i like guys with a conscience, who live responsibly - but not necessarily "nice" guys. i like a guy who's a bit of a rebel, at least. however, i think responsibility is the most important thing i look for - that includes emotional responsibility, though, not just political, environmental, or financial responsibility.