Greetings, Last week my girlfriend stayed a few days with me. I had a sexual problem I did not had before when I was with her. In all my three attempts(different days) I ejaculated prematurely within 5 minutes. I felt so devastated. Now we will meet again this weekend and I am sure things will happen. I am nervous that if I fail again to last long. Do anyone has some tips? Also I just masturbated to try myself and ejaculated within minutes again. I am thinking to use an anasthetic condom this time, do you people have other recommendations? P.S: I did not have this problem before, there were times I failed to ejaculate but not early, ever.
The first step is to calm down, eat a healthy diet, slower salt intake to lower blood pressure. (Lots of fruits, veggies, and water drinking). If you feel excited to fast, use foreplay time to calm yourself down and mentally tap into the gentle vibes of intimacy, rather than the carnal. Pay attention to how you're thrusting, and the sensations it's giving you, slow down or speed up as necessary for yourself with respect to what she wants you to do.
People's advice on ejaculating prior I really wonder if that helps or huts. Never tried it myself and the movie "There's something about Mary" came out after I was already married, but I see it from time to time. I can tell you from experience the 1-2 times I rubbed one out myself and then the wife said "you wanna have some fun?" and I'm no dummy and said yes I had some issues and just played it off. So for myself if I cum and then keep going after I'm usually okay but sometimes not. However if I rub one out a few minutes before, I'm typically crippled 30+ minutes, at least via sex... So be careful here That said seriously you should be able to control the rhythm to some degree, and if you're so horny such that it doesn't matter well then I guess just cum and try to continue on, if you can then great! If not well then I guess maybe try to please her in other ways.
Check out my thread on "Premature Ejaculation" in Sexual Health for my 10 techniques to overcome it...
