Hey all, my name is Pat. ok so basically i was with a woman for 6 years. The first 2 years were good i guess but could of been better. We had sex maybe once a week. Not to brag or anything but she kept saying it hurt and i was to big but she wouldn't do anything about it, she wouldn't use toys or even masturbate. but anyways after two year the sex stopped completely. Then all i ever did was by my self. so we went 4 years without sex. then i had enough and we broke up. So after a while i was ready to get back out there, so i had met a girl and of course i hadn't had sex in 4 years so you all know what happened. It didn't last very long. we kept going for a few weeks and i was not getting better.. i figure with time and more and more sex id get better. this was about 2.5 years ago. we ended up not seeing each other again. Now i met a wonderful woman about 2 years ago and we've been together since but i still have the same problem.. now its either i go way to fast or i don't go at all. If i stop my self before it come and wait then go back at it 98% of the time it wont happen for me. I mean at that point it definitely happens for her. but not me. but saw we start and i feel it coming, i usually tell her and sometimes she will say just go for it and we can keep going after but the problem with that is if i go and get cleaned up and go back, i usually get soft at that point and i cannot get it back up for the life of me. Has this ever happened to anyone? does anyone have any tips on what i can do to fix this problem Id like to be able to satisfy her and keep going to satisfy me.. thanks Pat
if you stop having sex when you are about to cum you posted that then you can't. you can't get it back up or you can't finish? As for cuming too fast in the years you were alone and sex free if you masturbated and got it done quick then you conditioned your body to cum quick and it's up to you to change that. You need to masturbate but you need to take a lot of time to cum and practice "peaking". Stop right before and then slowly keep stroking and keeping it right there. The longer you keep it right there without cuming the more control you'll get when you do start having sex. I just started dating this woman and last night she got upset that I wouldn't cum on our first run. She wanted to please me after she came and I explained that I wanted to have some more later and then I'd cum. If you practice peaking when you are having sex too there is nothing better feeling. Cuming is awesome but if you can peak for a long period it's like cuming. Back off of the porn too if you always have your face in the computer, it can mess with our minds.
