People that come and go

Any of you had people that repeatedly come and go out of your life? Almost like they are always there but just appear out of nowhere?

I have this friend who does that. I'm kind of like her big brother in a way because I'm always looking out for her. She is absolutely beautiful, incredibly smart and just a really really good person. She's also a heroin addict. I have told her many times I wish things were different, we'd probably be married. We have this connection where I can't hide a damn thing from her like I'm transparent. She'll be like you are stressed out, why? Wtf? I'm good at being unreadable but not with her.

I've tried to help her, even got her a place to stay and detox but you know how it goes.. people have to help themselves. She hates it and wants a different life but that shit has her on lock.

Anyway, she usually shows up at my house periodically or calls, and I haven't heard from her in over a month. All of her numbers are not working, and I don't know where she's staying. I worry about her a lot, think about her everyday.

Can anyone relate to this? Most of my friends are like fuck her dude, she's a junkie. This chick has a heart of gold though. It's just a shame.

 

I've known a bunch people who became junkies. They were all nice people too. Just got sucked into that. Thought that they were just going to snort every once in a while, never shoot. I guess you know where that goes.

I loss contact with the junkies pretty quickly. Mostly I was scarred of what the drug might make them do. My impression is that if someone is hooked strong enough, they'll pretty much rob anyone or do anything.

Acupuncture and Chinese Herbal medicine can help with recovery. Can be expensive though.

I think that there is mention of some other treatments that are superior to methadone in the opiates forum.

I think that someone has to have the desire to quit and adequate support to do it.

I guess it would be the fairytale ending if she quit, but not reasonable to expect.

 

I told her I'd pay for rehab or suboxone, which is super fucking expensive and if anything the gov't should be helping people out that way rather than wasting money on the war on drugs.

The thought has crossed my mind, she hangs out with some shady people in those circles. Some have felonies for armed robbery/burglary. Rule #1 is none of her drug friends come to my house and none of that shit in my house.

I'm not too worried about it though. With my dogs.. nobody is getting in here with me gone unless they come in shooting. And if I am home, well, I'll just say that's gonna be the last house they ever rob.

I know she has the desire but definitely not the support. And she's so strong willed and proud she doesn't want help, wants to do it all on her own. So rehab is a no go, maybe if she got arrested it would end up helping her. I've considered saying come on, we're going to Colorado. Get her away from the scene around here she's caught up in. I know there's nothing more I can do than I already have, it just makes me sad because she's a great person and just so damn pretty. I hope she helps herself before she ends up dead or in prison. Which is what I told her is the path she's on.

 

Yes, there is this guy who was my boss when I was first a Park Ranger at Oregon Caves and I loved him instantly and for the past 13 years he had come and gone in my life and prevented me from having peace of mind.

 

That's a good way of putting it, preventing you from having peace of mind. I've had quite a few of those but this one.. I mean damn. This one is the worst by far because it's one of the craziest connections I've had with another person and I worry all the time if she's ok.

 

Yep, sometimes it is really hard to be a person who really cares... My boyfriend had a relationship like that with one of his friends. It ended tragically because the guy eventually killed himself and Charles blames himself for not being able to help, but you can only do so much for another person. Anyway, you are obviously a caring person too, and it can definitely be stressful!

 

It's sad. That's typical of most junkies. In and out of people's lives and most of them do have a heart of gold. It sounds like you have gone above and beyond to help her. Like you said, you can't help someone that won't help themselves. I hope she comes around and gets the help she needs. I've known quite a few meth addicts that I thought I would see buried that have gotten the help they need and are living successful drug free lives now. Almost all of them moved away to get away from the negative influences. Some have moved back when they were strong enough but some haven't. Good luck with your friend. I hope things with out for her.

 

I'm the one that comes and goes from a few peoples lives

 

Thanks. By the way I love your screen name.

I went hard today and went to her last known residence today and got all of her shit. Her entire life fits into a box



On the bottom of the clothes is her birth certificate and a bunch of unopened letters. I'm not going to open them but I know what they say. Lets just say it makes me very fucking sad and I know why she is living like she doesn't give a fuck. A lot of things make sense now. Some of them are addressed to her mother's place because it is in the area which she told me she lives. I'm going to take all this stuff to her mother. Not sure why I'm posting this here just need to vent it out anonymously I guess.

 

hoping for the best, brother

 

Thanks, me too. Not much I can do except get this stuff back to her or her mother.

 

Do you know my screen name reference?

She is very lucky to have a friend like you that loves and cares about her so much. I'm sure most people in her life have given up on her. It's hard to stand by and continue to be there for someone that is so far lost in their addiction. If you ever want to talk feel free to message me. Like I said, I've known a lot of addicts and have seen this with my own eyes. My step brother was on meth for 11 years. I don't know how he survived but he did and he's great now. It can happen. She just needs someone like you to believe in her and help her when she is finally ready to help herself. Like I said, feel free to message me if you ever need to talk about it.

 

I like to come and go. I'm not much of a relationship kinda guy.

 

heroin addicts are all thieves... the only good heroin person i ever dealt with only did it once in my presence and that was his last time ever. we were 19

 

And Muslims are all terrorists.

 

Well, that's foolish

 

Exactly.

 

I don't really think blanket statements are fair. I would agree that a lot of them probably do what they have to do to feed their addiction but I don't think you can just throw a blanket statement like that out there and call it true.

 

I find it kind of odd how judgmental you are against addicts yet you have a Sid and Nancy picture in your signature. Ironic.

 

If There Is One Thing I Have Learned In The 66 Years I Have Spent On

This Earth, It Is.... "A LEOPARD NEVER CHANGES ITS SPOTS"....



Cheers Glen.