People In Love Make Me Bitter

The ex got himself a girlfriend.

She is magazine beautiful and from what I am hearing, everything I am not.

Which is good for him.

But makes me feel like a steaming pile. -_-

This is not rational thinking, because I mean, duh, it didn't work out because we weren't right for each other, so of course she has attributes that I do not. Is he supposed to be alone forever or is he supposed to downgrade from me? It's okay for me to not be what he wants. It doesn't matter.

Feelings are stupid. I'm still grieving the relationship and my anxiety is off the charts. I would like to turn all of this off and become a robot now, please.

Happy people of the world, go on being happy. May you be blessed forever.

*walks into traffic*

 

Sorry you're struggling with anxiety...I do too sometimes. It stinks. I hope you find some relief soon.

 

Well, you gotta go out and find yourself a young hung stud now.
String that boy on for a few weeks, absolutely degrade yourself and have fun. Then kick him to the curb, have a good long laugh and get on with it.

 

I was just about to sign off when I realized I just said I was going to walk into traffic and I'm going to be gone all weekend. LOL. Bad move. Not actually going to do that. Actually going to visit my family and old friends in NY for my birthday. We're going to the Renaissance Fair. It's pirate weekend. Should be fun. Just hope I can stop thinking about him and his new girl and what they're up to the whole time. It's really not productive. -_-

Thanks for replying, guys. I'm just whining. Should have gone in the whiners forum in hindsight. Everyone goes through this now and then. It just SUUUUUUCCCCKKKKKSSSSSS. >_<

 

I had to work with my ex and her current boyfriend lol, i feel your pain.

 

I hope you have fun at the Renaissance fair!!! I'm sure there will be lots of activities to keep you busy and keep your mind off of him.

 

I'm sorry, I had to laugh at that line. Know the feeling very well.

By the way, you are gorgeous too (if it's you in your pic) and seem like a sensible, well adjusted person. "Magazine looks" don't matter

 

I thought that was what he did, downgrade from you that is.

I guess it's all matter of perseption

 

I dont understand why you cut your hair

Looked awesome before, and with those cheeks you need bangs

You even look a little bit like an early Jennifer Aniston, same facial features

 

drastic physical change after a break up is kind of a classic move and the cutting of the hair is top of the list

who wants to stay the same after that drama anyway....I like the hair and the red lips no eye paint

 

That would really suck!

 

Maybe she just wanted a change. Long hair is a huge pain to deal with (unless you are me and ignore it and it looks horrible all the time instead).

I think the short hair looks great, especially with those colours in it!k

 

If you are hearing from your ex that she is everything that you are not, your bullshit detector should be going off.

If someone is really happy with someone they are with, their first thought is not to go report to their ex about how awesome and not like their ex the new gf is.

Sounds like your ex is just trying to twist the knife, and what she and their relationship is really like, you'll never know.

 

being single is the best decision ever for me....I should have stayed a bachelor my whole life

got to the point my gf would snore and I wanted to smother her with a pillow

most my exes just traded sideways...a couple way up and a couple way down

I love not sharing every fucking thing in my life...i'm greedy like that

''leave me a couple doobs before you go out''

I never have to hear that again


stay single op.....wallow in the independence and not the heartbreak

 

Yes agreed on the everything you are not is probably bullshit thing.

Especially if he is getting bitchy about

By the sounds of your other posts you put out, this one probably doesnt, so he's stuck with just all the talking. Just as likely he went safer in thag respect and 6 months later he will complain to someone else she never puts out.

And magazine beautiful, is she skin and bones? They cant really go to town with that, with all the sloppy disgusting heterosexual sex if they fear her wrists can easily snap

 

i thought it said "wanks into traffic" and i actually considered it for a minute...

 

Well THAT is just AWFUL and I am so glad that has not been my experience. He works at a college and she is a nanny. I'm in the office where we met before he quit his job. At least we all have very separate lives.

I am feeling so much better than I was when I posted this. Getting out, getting away and getting some perspective really helped. He's been very nice about the whole thing. All the vitriol has come from me playing whack-a-mole with my insecurities. He was poison to me as a boyfriend and there is no reason for me to miss him, but he's an okay friend at least. He wants me to meet her... Says she has a friend to set me up with that lives around the corner from me. My first reaction to that was 'you people are from Mars, wtf, why would you do that...' My second reaction was no thanks, I'd like to have a little more time to myself before jumping into something else like I always have done.

In a way, I think this needed to happen. It was the only way I was going to get over him. It's like the final nail in the coffin of the spell he had me under. She seems like a nice lady, he seems like he's trying to turn things around, and I just feel done with it. I'm sure my irrational fears will rear their ugly heads again at the most inopportune times, but such is the nature of the beast. I'll deal with it the best I can.

 

PS: I cut my hair out of curiosity, honestly. I really want to see what it looks like as it's growing out. I figured I'm not really looking to attract anyone right now, so why the f not? I wanted to see if it was better or worse. Hair grows back.

We broke up over a year ago, but we've been screwing around and picking at the scab up until a couple months ago. I've been struggling to come to terms with our trainwreck of a relationship in that time, as well as trying to figure out who the hell I am. Part of that was trying to figure out how I want to look. I kind of don't hate this. I like that I have the option of looking kind of androgynous if I want to. I don't know why. Attracting a mate isn't really playing into it for once in my life. It's just what I'm gravitating toward right now. I don't feel like I've done it to push people away, but now that I think of it, the unoriginal dudebros that I despise will probably run screaming, and honestly, is that ever bad? :daisy:

 

I still recall the mindblowing realization that some people look like they do because they're chronically busy with trying to look as attractive as possible. I concluded their lifes must suck

 

One of the toughest times post break up is seeing the ex with a new person. But just remember things seem so perfect because they have not had time to piss each other off. It's called the honeymoon phase and it's well documented. You are so full of hormones you don't see faults you will later see. Pretty much biology is just trying to get you to reproduce quick. Also consider your ex probably wants you to think he is happy. It may be important for them to convince you they are not hurt too because this person is so much better. They might be a better fit but the true test of a relationship is time. In a few months of a few years the honeymoon wears off. That is when you see if it is real.