People calling me gay

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by chris_1661, Jun 6, 2006.

  1. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  2. icedteapriestess

    icedteapriestess linguistic freak

    ok.. but if you go around spreading anger and hate, what do you expect to get back? Love and acceptance? Sorry.. but you get what you give... and baby, you are giving out some serious darkness. No butterflies and rainbows coming from you.
     
  3. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  4. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  5. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  6. icedteapriestess

    icedteapriestess linguistic freak

    why wouldn't you? you can't get help unless you are honest about what the problem is. I mean, you don't go to the doctor and tell them you have a headache when really your leg is broken, do you? Same thing here.

    Why do you think it would be stupid to be honest with your councellor? I was always honest with my councellors, phsyciatrists and other mental doctors.. if i wasn't honest with them I never would have gotten the help I need.

    How can you say you don't have anger issues/rage issues in one sentance and then say that you end up physically hurting yourself to control your temper in another? You are contradicting yourself.

    why can't you go around being soft? I am soft, and open and willing to help everyone and anyone that comes across my path in "real" life. I help old ladies with their groceries, i say "bless you" to strangers when they sneeze.... I constantly have a smile on my face. What is wrong with being soft? Some of the best men I know have been soft at heart.. my grandpa, my father, my husband, for examples. I don't think i would love them they way that I do if they weren't so loving and kind and caring. Who wants to be friends with an uptight, mean, angry asshole when they could be friends with a laid back, happy smiling guy?
     
  7. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    I plan to. C'mon man, it's not so bad. I'm completely fucking gay and I get hit on by women all the time. If you can't get a girlfriend, it's probably nothing to do with people calling you gay.
     
  8. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  9. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    Are you actually real, out of interest?

    What I'm saying, if you are real, is that even if everyone thought you were gay, that's not really any excuse for not having a girlfriend, is it. Shit, I could probably get one if I wanted, and everyone actually knows I'm gay. The laydeez beat a path to my door.

    So what's your excuse?
     
  10. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  11. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

    Exactly. Unless you turn your attitude around a complete 180 degrees, good luck finding anyone worth your breath to spend time with. Being a half-assed gentleman doesn't count. Girls are very unlikely to go for a guy who opened a door for them once or twice than they are to go for a guy who smiles, holds his head high, and treats people exactly as he wants to be treated, regardless of his feelings towards any particular person. That doesn't require you let bullies step on you, but if you aren't friendly at all, why shouldn't people throw up their defenses?

    You need a definite attitude adjustment. When I was 17, my ex-boyfriend moved to Boston and we still kept in touch via e-mail and AIM, but all I ever had to share with him was negative depressing things, so he told me if I expected him to read my e-mails,, for every negative or bad thing that happened, I'd have to include one positive aspect of my day. That was a great exercise in my quest for optimism, so I'd suggest you do the same. Pick up a notebook and list the things that frustrated you, the bad things that bummed you out, etc. on one side, and the things that went well on the other. If the good side doesn't outweigh the bad side for awhile, it'll take time, but eventually you'll be able to pick out more positive happenings than negative.
     
  12. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    I dunno, I know plenty of guys who are completely fucking douchebags and can still get dates. In fact, I probably know more of them than I do nice guys with dates.
     
  13. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  14. Hikaru Zero

    Hikaru Zero Sylvan Paladin

    Chris

    Look at the way you respond to these guys like crummyrummy here who make fun of you on this thread. You get so pissed off at *them* that everyone else who sees you get pissed off so much, they don't want a damn thing to do with you.

    THAT is probably why you have a bad reputation.

    YOU. NEED. TO. CHANGE.
    NOT THEM.
    YOU.

    Chris, I want you to take a moment and seriously answer this question:

    Have you learned nothing?

    Oh, shut up. I am as brutally honest as it gets and people talk to me all the time. You are not an honest person, and the reason why people dislike you and don't want to talk to you is BECAUSE you are not being an honest person! You are NOT putting in honest effort. You are NOT trying to be honest. You are NOT honestly trying to be a more accepting, better person.

    No wonder nobody wants to talk to you!

    No wonder they want to hear thanks once in a while!

    Guess it's time to make an effort to change, hmm?

    YES, IT IS AS BAD AS PEOPLE ARE SAYING IT IS, are you even paying attention? How many MORE pages is this going to take?

    You know what, I'm done.

    I give up.

    I'm not even going to come back to this thread. Bye.
     
  15. chris_1661

    chris_1661 Member

  16. Hikaru Zero

    Hikaru Zero Sylvan Paladin

    You want honesty, Chris? I have told you at least three times on this thread to re-read my posts. There is invaluable information there.

    Yet, you fail to even try. Instead, you whine, you make excuses like "oh I want the easier path" and "woe is me, I don't want to sound like a prick" when that's already all you do: sound like a prick.

    Take the advice on this thread seriously, like you said you would. THEN talk about honesty.
     
  17. icedteapriestess

    icedteapriestess linguistic freak

    Yeah, Chris.. you don't really seem to HEAR what we are telling you. You need to let some of this stuff sink in, let it absorb.

    You DO HAVE ANGER ISSUES! The way you behave, act, react, think and feel about other people is not normal!

    And you still have never answered my original question... what is SO FUCKING WRONG with being GAY??
     
  18. Brand New Soul

    Brand New Soul Senior Member


    Amen! This guy actually gives good advice. He helped me before. Open your ears and eyes Chris.
     
  19. SelfControl

    SelfControl Boned.

    I don't normally go in for the whole "homophobes are closet gays" angle, but in this case, yeah, this guy probably is gay. Even the most heterosexual guys I've met in real life would have never reacted like this to what was actually said:

    Note that at no point did I suggest he was gay, just that people thinking he was wouldn't actually directly harm his chances of getting a girlfriend.
     
  20. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

    Thanks for listening to me, Chris. I didn't ask you to push a magic fucking button. Forget it. You don't want help, leave. Live with your parents until they die, then spend your life alone. You don't want help, stop asking. I gave you a VERY GOOD way to start on the positive path but you won't do it. As far as I'm concerned, you've done nothing but waste our valuable time and bandwidth space here. If you're not going to listen to what any of us have to say, GO AWAY.
     

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