Parents support to masturbate

It was not discussed in my home growing up.
However, my mother was a realist and knew it was a natural part of puberty and growing up.

 

I have read story of a mother instructing her daughter and son how to masturbate. She help them and demonstrated. Kind of creeped me out, Not sure if it was true,but on the other hand if she did this to provide education to a very natural human function then ok. I’m on the fence with this.

 

Masturbation was never talked about when I grew up. I use to masturbate a lot when I was growing up but always in private when home alone. If I had a wet dream I would ask mom if it was OK for me to do laundry so she wouldn't find out. I don't know if she figured it out or not. As far as I know they didn't catch me or they did and just didn't say anything.

 

When I was growing up, masturbation was never talked about in the family home. Now as a mum myself of a boy and a girl, both who are in the early stages of puberty, I do try to discuss masturbation and other sexual matters with them openly and frankly. I must admit, I don't always find it easy, especially with my son. But I would hate to think either of them felt dirty for doing something that is healthy, natural, and very pleasurable, as long as it's done in the privacy of their own room.

I do find it easier talking to my daughter about masturbation. I guess that's to be expected. With my son slightly less so, I don't want to pry into his private life, but I do remind him he can talk to me about anything. He has no problem asking me to buy some more lube or replace his box of tissues when running low but that is about as close as he gets to even admitting he masturbates. My daughter, especially when it's just the two of us in the room is far more open.

 

Obviously, They both know how to masturbate and you should happy with that and continue to encourage them to experiment and explore. A big ice breaker for you would be to directly tell both of them that you do, and it is fun and healthy. Don’t bat an eye when you say it.

 

I agree with Panama Jack to talk with our children, but the problem is the right age that we should start talking with them. The age of the kids is so important, it means we should not wait for the age of their puberties. I believe it is too late and we can not communicate with them easily as 1 Rose says. We should start having closed relation with our kids since they are 4 or 5 and be closed as a friend, not only as a parent. When our relationship is too close with our kids they talk to us as a friend, and it will be too easy for us to communicate with them and talk about anything inclouding their sex matter.

 

My parents were very conservative folks when I was growing , so no sex talks at all, much less masturbation. My step sister was the one that informed me. I tried to change that when my dau got to that age, and we talked about it.

 

As Lily the Pink said, the time of talking to the kids about masurbation is so important. If we talk around the puberty time it is late, on the other hand, talking to the kids in age 4 or 5 means you are getting too closed to your kids and the freindly relation forms with them gradially.
At the puberty age you almost passed the halfway and your kids respect you not only as a good parent but also as a good friend.
If your kids respect you as a friend, they will talk to you openly during their hole life and you will have the less problems of comunication with them.

 

My parents obviously knew that I masturbated. Sperm isn't something easy to clean from the sheets. But they never actually talked about it.

As for my own children. I know that they masturbate and me and my wife are perfectly Oké with it. We talked with them about it and told them that it's a very natural thing to do. But we also said it's something you do in private or with a person you feel you can share it with.

We are perfectly oké to talk about it with our children but we don't actually have to witness it. It happened a view times by accident and it was very awkward for both of us. Knowing and talking about it is one thing. Actually seeing it isn't something you want to see as a parent.

 

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Same here. That was taboo in our house when I was growing up. I found out on my own, which was fine, but I wish that I would have been able to talk with my parents about such things.

 

My big brother told me about everything he was a great help, he said it would be an advantage to have sex with a older mature woman you will gain experience that way. I told him that could be difficult he said that I have a tongue in my head and you have the equipment. It happened when I was 16 she was much older but she spoke to me about sex and I learned a lot

 

I was very blessed from the age of 12 onwards. I could of been in serious trouble if my then new stepmom wasn't so understanding. I was a clueless young boy i was horney and wanted her to no but at the same time I had no idea what I was experiencing and being raised by just a man I was never told about what happens to a young mans body but after a incident where I could of been in serious trouble my stepmom decided to support me and try to understand what I was going through she was very encouraging about wanking i still remember the words she said to this day "it's very important you wank as much as I can" She is the coolest women I know to this day she completely understands young boys need to wank and she encourages it she would even buy me porn every other week a fresh film or mag and other more personal items if I had been good in school.

 

I had similar but not exactly the same upbringing

 

It goes on more than you think. Family masturbation is very common. Family members helping each other in times of need. Society does not approve of the alls of things. It is society causes children and teens to get abuse which it the mothers who play a big role in that. It the family who needs to take care of each other where it safe. Outsiders can cause serious issues for your child or teenager.

 

I myself am very thankful for the education I received and support. I read a lot of the so called "moms & step mom" posts and I can tell you 99.9% on here are totally BS. Everyone portrays family sex ed like a porn film I find them funny to read rather then erotic. understanding and commitment that went into me the long talks and understanding of the situation itself and how the world would perceive it let me tell you it's a lot to have on your shoulders it's heavy.

 

It was never really talked about in my house with the parents. But I know it was happening like crazy. My brother and I use to do it a lot. I am proud to say in over 20 years of jerking. I’ve never been caught. Unless it was intentional and I wanted it to happen. I rubbed one out this morning at 2am while my wife was sleeping. I plan to let my son know it’s completely normal. Just do it in private and clean up after yourself.

 

One thing that I was taught from the get go was boundaries they are key.

 

Never discussed at all.

 

Boundaries are critical in the relationship with others. We have different levels of limits with others, and it is base on the level of friendship. When someone allows you to be in their space, and you are in their area is based on trust, loyal, honesty, faithful, love, caring. When someone is private about you and you are closed about them means they can go places in each other life, and you both know it does not get shared with others unless you have permission from that person.

Boundaries in the family are significant for the family to operate as a whole. Family members are allowed to be in each other self-space because of trust, loyal, love, caring. Gossip destroys self-space and also dissolves boundaries. Example: Brother witness mother or sister having their periods, or see them masturbate. It for his learning and understanding, and he does not share it with anyone. Mother and sister experience seeing the boy of the family masturbating, and they see him ejaculate, which allows them to see semen & sperm is for their learning and not to share with others.

 

Absolutely.

 

My stepson who is 12-years-old masturbate daily. I do not say to him that he needs to go and masturbate in his room. I do not say to him not to masturbate. I tell him that masturbation is natural and healthy. I told him there area place and time when you should masturbate. It needs to be done in the home and not in public places like the classroom, restroom. He is very relaxed in speaking to me about things like this. I let him know he can masturbate openly in the home.