I am 21 and a virgin. My boyfriend and I have tried to have sex quite a few times but everytime he tries to push in I get this excruciating pain and soreness that makes us stop. My vagina is wet enough and I feel arousal but for some reason it doesn't stretch to accommodate him, and even when it's a little inside, it hurts really bad. What is wrong?
I don’t think there anything wrong not sure if your boyfriend is big and your a virgin maybe try some smaller toys or fingers to start and work your way up to him but most importantly I think you need to relax that helps I’m sure a women on here and help you better them me
You don't say anything about an infection or unhealed injury, so nothing is wrong. You say that you are wet enough. You need to relax, and add lubrication from a bottle. You can find lubrication in any pharmacy near where the condoms are displayed. The lubrication is easy. Relaxation may take practice and patience. If you practice yoga, you know how to relax. Lighting, room temperature, mental state, and most of all controlled breathing. In all likelihood, you are wet and aroused leading up to penetration, but your vaginal muscles tense as you begin. It isn't great that you feel this pain, but you will get through it, and it's better than the alternative - a penis so small that it slips in virtually unnoticed with little or no stimulation or sensation.
What about trying a finger and then a second, then third. Perhaps small toys and work up. Can even spend time on your own getting used to having something inside of you, stretch it out. This will help. Try slowly and try it daily.
Lots of oral foreplay. Extra lube. Relax - have a few drinks. Slip it in a little at a time until you get used to it. Take it slowly with shorter strokes until you are ready. Practice, practice, practice.
What is your boyfriend’s size? My ex wife was a virgin and as expected it was painful for the first couple of times. Try going in a little bit at a time, stay that way a while before going a little bit deeper. That was the way I did it. I did the same with two other women who had no partner in years and it was the same; tight and painful, but it went well. Hopefully it will work out well for you as well. Would like to know more as things progress
First of all there have been some very good solutions presented here. A lot of us on this forum have a boatload of sexual experience. Trouble is we may overlook or not consider the real issue with your question. There are more than ten things that can cause pain during intercourse including vaginismus, endometriosis, or pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). Nobody on this forum can diagnose any of these things. If you have tried several times make love with your boyfriend and the pain is too great see a doctor. There might be something that needs a specialist to figure out. Do yourself a favor and get checked by an OBGYN. Sex is way to fun and enjoyable to be in pain to where you won't participate.
I had the same problem. I put in her puss an inch at a time. It took all night and when I hit the bottom we both went crazy. I was going to pull it out, no way. we took our chance. My cum made her a little manageable. She wouldn't leave me alone after that. I loved having sex with her. I knew it would take a long time. When she starts saying it hurts, relax and let it go in all by itself. One night I came in her for about four hours. I was real horney. I could tell when I did a good job as she would squirm. Be patient and not just cram it in. We did better with me on top. When I was doing good her legs would really spread. Easy does it. She went to live with her cousin back east.
I still love my junior high. I had several girls that I would come in on our way to school. We would meet at the barn on the way to school. One loved to lay on her stomach. I took care of her. The other ones laid on their back on a bale of hay. My balls hurt from all the attention. It was good as they could not get pregnant. My favorite, I took care of her with he legs on my shoulder. We stopped when the girls got a little older.
Google Vaginismus... it is a real thing. Dont let the OBGYN dismiss this as an option. Be dedicated to make it work and do not give up.
