I think I am in the same boat. Years ago it was so much fun. She would allow me to have buddies over to the house that would 'accidentally' get a glimpse of her nude. One night while drunk, found out she liked girls, which was fine as long as she would share picture with me. She met one of them at the mall and ate her out in the dressing room. During her late 30's even let another couple watch as I stripped her naked and we had sex right in front of them. Now after menopause she really isn't interested in sex anymore (maybe 3 times a year). The good part is she will still give a blowjob if I asked for, but oddly enough, though they still feels great, it gets a bit awkward when you always have to ask, unlike when she use to want to give them. I am horny probably as much as ever. So I find anyway I can to get myself turned on, get naked and masturbate. On of my favorites is to wait until late at night, skinny dip in the hot tub, and usually climb out of the tub to have an orgasm in the backyard just before coming in.