Yes, We play that way as well. Mostly, My wife is intrigued by the male anatomy. When we are in the mood we lay back and mutually masturbate. That when she want to watch up close. It’s eye candy for her. When it’s time for me to explode I will roll over to her and shoot on her waiting DD’s. By now she has already cum. It’s all good in our home.
I’ve done this with more than one woman, it can be really intense for them watching you! Straddle her chest, and encourage her to get to the edge of cumming. You do the same. From here you can ride the edge for a while (bliss) and then either have her tell you when to shoot off, or just look her loving yet unblinkingly in the eye and start counting backwards from ten. Hot. I miss doing this as these days I prefer to keep my balls full most of the time. I love the energy and the feeling of being DTF at any moments notice. (The bit about the hair though... if you do make a mess don’t apologise - apologies are not sexy to your woman!! Say that she looked just so HOT beneath you, that you just lost your self control in that moment. And ZIP it. )
She likes watching me masturbate while she plays with her vibrator and asks me to cum on her boobs when she orgasms.