Orgasm during rape

Maybe, but unfortunately I didn't get that feeling that she might've gotten the help she needed.

These forums have a tendency to go into mean sarcasm territory as of the last 8 months. It's kind of sickening to me.

 

Yeah I wasn't gonna touch this one, too hot.

Therapy is really the only answer to this thread. Nobody here is an expert at talking you through this.

 

A couple things stuck out:

1. Most of the advice was that she should talk to someone. This was two years ago and she mentoned a face to face discussion would be too traumatic, hence why shes's using the internet. From her perspective in one way it makes it seem like everyone thinks she's a silly girl, in that it hasnt registered with her in those two years that talking to someone is an option. Also she already said it would be too much at this time, so its like the rest of you arent even listening

2. Title is "Orgasm during Rape" This is the aspect she's most focused on, confusion that she needed to sort out.

No one was of any help, and the condescention of telling her the bleeding obvious just as useless as sarcasm

 

Look if the OP sees this, I invite her to have a private conversation with me if she wants to talk about it. I've had gal pals who have admitted to me that they've been raped in real life and went through a similar mental stress and confusion in their lives.


And ya know what, I blame some of this confusion on the whole over exaggerated message in society that even comprehensive sex education does wrong, and that's telling boys and girls that boys/men are visually excited, and girls/women are mentally emotionally excited.

Imho, that kind of absolute statement just creates confusion, especially in the cases of girls/women who are getting raped and feel physical pleasure despite the emotions not being the romantic loving ones...that our society associates with being loving and orgasmic.

 

OP, please PM me, I've been through this too and I've found a light at the end of the tunnel! Please do not think that this was your fault, it wasn't, not one single bit and what you felt was extremely common sadly. But just know if you need to speak with someone then I am here, just message me whenever your ready! Its so hard, I know, it has taken me over 5 years to even come to terms with what happened, let alone the extra feelings that were brought along with it. I promise you, you are not alone! I'm just a message away xxx

 

I think your body is just responding to sex the way your body is suppose to. I'm not trying to be insensitive and I'm sorry that this happened to you. But I think sex is sex (to your body) not mentally.

 

Yeah rapists, aren't always brutal. Some are extremely patient and know how to get the body to respond regardless of whether there was consent or not. Society needs to recognize this and stop shaming the women and saying "they asked for it", because that is the most insulting thing ever.

Even the OT bible, recognized that society was not to put to death a woman who was forced. And this is a book that by modern ethical standards is frowned upon as is.

 

I really dont know how to send messages, Ive tried and tried. Thank you to those whove replied and offered support. To those two offering to talk more about my email address is sarajgriffiths@yahoo.com
I couldnt message it to you or reply to your messages, I really have no idea why?

 

I've never been raped but once in hs I was like surrounded by a group of guys who were like grouping me n stuff and although I didnt want it it felt good and if it went further I'm sure it would've felt good. Sex is sex and sometimes rough sex feels really good. I look at it like if u loved pudding and someone forced you to eat it u like pudding but ur control was taken away from u. The pudding still tastes good but the experience is bad but like the taste of the pudding doesn't make the situation less awful

 

This should be closed.
OP, feel free to private message me. I was raped, didnt orgasm but felt a lot of conflicting desires afterwards. I've recently been speaking to a professional who helped me understand.

 

I don't think this thread should be closed because of the topic is unsettling. This thread begins to go into an honest discussion and analysis of this issue that affects the emotion and understanding of love and compassion and how something like this impacts the sex life.

If this thread doesn't belong here where should it go?

The sarcastic comments should be deleted though in pages back.
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I think she has to have more posts in general to gain the ability to private message? Her total post count is only 3.