Orgasm during penetration: a myth?

Question for girls (but also men can reply if have experiences).

How many of you are able to reach orgasm during sex? Not foreplay! Only sex, vaginal or anal penetration.

The question came to my mind because my gf can reach orgasm easily during foreplay, when I lick her, but she doesn't during penetration. Actually I think she isn't interested in it, because after some minutes she prefers to stop (she says she feels pain). So I cum and the show is over.

I know that clitoral orgasm is much more frequent than the vaginal one.

 

It all depends on the woman and that is the fun part. My ex could have an vaginal orgasm with my finger, dick or what ever else we could shove in there.

The woman I am with now can`t have intercourse orgasm unless I give her a jump start. I find her G-spot and get her a massive orgasm and when she starts cuming I jump on and I can keep her in the zone till she begs me to get off. Sat night we were at it for over an hour and by the end she was seeing stars.

As for your GF feeling pain and cutting intercourse short you two should figure it out. Is she staying wet? Are you hitting the wrong spot? (wrong angle).

If she feels pain then don't push for more time because that can sour really fast but there should be a reason.

A lot of time we don't put enough time in forplay and that is a big key.

 

Well, she is very wet... Maybe I should stop and try to lubricate her a little bit... Dunno!



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Most women who can have on is from clitorial stimulation.

 

I'm surprised you didn't google this, because if you had, you would know that the studies show that only 30-40% of women have orgasms from penetration.

 

From personal experience and what women have told me it's clitoral orgasm, even if it's just started off that way but to go to penetration alone would not bring on an orgasm. Some say they can and that must be mental with other stim. I heard one guy here say his GF could cum from nipple stim alone and I so don't believe that, I am betting she never knew a real orgasm and kinda fakes it and he believes it.
An orgasm should include what looks like nearly a convulsion. If she just says Ah, that was good,,, forget it, she didn't cum. Penetration could include clitoral stim and she would be able to cum but most women do like foreplay to actually get them going, doesn't have to be oral in some cases and in other cases just some oral with other types of stimulation.
I knew a woman years ago who said she never experienced an orgasm and that happens, partly because like her guy,,, he though penetration was the be all and end all and she was happy. She did let on she was tho and that's her fault.
Let's think of it this way,,, could you cum by anal alone with nothing else happening? Bet not, there isn't a sex organ in yer ass, but you might with anal added to some stim on your penis. Well our little man in the boat is much like your penis, it feels everything and sends hormones and stuff to our brain, add the romance and maybe some ass play or other things for some women and we can have a wild one you will relate to an after shock that follows an earth quake.
Any woman who says she can orgasm by anal or penetration alone IMO is lucky that she has more then one clit, maybe there is even one in her throat or you believe that. Truth is we have a mini penis and it does much that same as your penis except it doesn't spit, we let that happen from another place when conditions are right for it.
And just so you know, some women should cum before penetration so they have enough lube to carry on, adding man made lubes to complete the job worries me. They say they are safe but let's say somewhere down the road we find peeps having issues because that stuff never really totally washes out, it's man made and is not natural to the body but I bet lots come to the idea it's easier then always making her cum.

 

Of course it's not a myth. That's like saying you can't do a cartwheel, so everyone that can is obviously faking it.

If you think the clit is the only way to the big o, you're missing out.

http://monicasbox.wordpress.com/2012/07/15/11-different-types-of-orgasms/

 

Ok, so I ran through Monica's sexcapades with her and I call BS on a lot of it unless she includes a lot of mental work up or drugs. Bet no man will say he had a mouth orgasm eating pussy and if my guys says it happens for him I am gonna live the rest of my wonderful life sprawled out Naked on the kitchen table. IMO she is taking about getting pleasure by giving pleasure but an actual orgasm,,, not gonna happen and if it does it's a lot of mental work up but let's ask any woman here,,,
Could you orgasm from anywhere else like you do from a clitoral orgasm without Any clitoral stim? Would you go totally without any clitoral stim for the next five sessions with your man who you know, love and trust? Bet not unless you think you are supposed to,,, sex slave....
Clitoral stim is our treat for being able to make babies, if we didn't get that we would be done with sex once we produced the number of kids our man wanted which is why IMO some women don't care for sex after they produce and do Their reproductive duties, because they never knew a real orgasm because maybe were told that's all they can get from it or their man doesn't know how to make it her heaven. Sad because he wonders why it's such a chore to get her to give what he wants.
Maybe some women do get off on doing BJs but chances are they get off on it as much as men get off on eating pussy,,, we all love that we can give that kind of pleasure to each other and work up the whole session.
Anyone here can tell me they got an orgasm in their mouth that started at their lips and they eventually blew a load of something before any stim was given to them? She's kinda full of it in some of her bits there, some she read from other sources and is right. I bet 80% of women would care more not to do a BJ at all if their guy said it didn't matter because he felt nothing from it as would many men if their girl said oral doesn't do anything when given to them.
And yes the mind can help bring it all to a mind blowing event but there is no such thing as a mouth orgasm alone and it being the satisfaction a woman needs, yes, the g-spot for many but not all and clitoral stim does it all if done right for each case. There is the balls slamming it during intercourse in doggy style,,, that helps for some, some women like to smash the penis on the clit during and or before intercourse and that might be enough for them to get going but ya, who is this lady anyway? A sex specialist? A trysexual as she said herself? Ha, some people have a lot to say but we know what makes us hear bells and whistles ourselves. Half what she said is bullpucky.
You watch now, many guys are going to be pushing their GFs to work harder to reach that mouth orgasm place in so called heaven and everyone's gonna be walking around with stretch marks on their lips and dents in the back of their necks,,, hee hee.
Now, here is my point, it's all about how good the session is, do you love your man? Does he connect with you in a way that makes you horny for him? That's kind of like a pre to the orgasm that's coming but there must be stim to reach it or else sumting wong,,,, and in most cases if the sex is good for both there was BJs, clit stim, penetration and the whole shebang, and may include gentleness, roughness, and a whole shit load of things that make it happen including mental awareness of it all. I seriously couldn't love a man who thought his being here was enough for me or that me pleasuring him was enough for me or that his dong could do it all. It ain't true. It's just not. My man is what turns me on, his dong is what tickles me the right way but there must be more about him and how we play.
Any woman who believes she needs nothing more in sex then to give a BJ or intercourse is missing out on a lot. Get what you should ladies and don't listen to everything you read, you should feel you almost had a seizure when you orgasm.
And you can't fake a cartwheel, either you can or the dental work will show you tried and failed, you can fake an orgasm,,, there is no physical proof it didn't happen, it's not like our eyeballs go crossed if it didn't happen.

 

Very interesting article, Mama. This old dog is learning new tricks. Just last weekend, I and my new lover discovered what they call the A-spot, but we didn't know what it was called.

 

I have heard it called the A spot before.

 

That one's a great one for men who are comfortable exploring that . Many I know hae said that's they're most intense orgasm.

I'm not reading sally's gigantic wall of text. I know what I, and many others have experienced, and I'm not interested in her banter.

 

the ex could have the oral orgasm...the first time she cam when she was sucking on me it totally freaked us both out. She can slowly suck on it and cum and if I grab her hair and slam it in there she cums really fast. I do have video but it obviously has her face in it. After she's cum a few times and gets really worked up she can cum if I choke her or play with her nipples really hard.

 

Nice adultish way to slam a conversation shut only to hope to protect yourself from what You said rather then reason with the conversation at hand. What your lady said is some bit BS, I never said you don't have funky experiences. You do a lot of things many wouldn't so I am not surprised and I am not putting you down for them either, but really, do you have mouth orgasms? I have to almost think Monica is a guy trying to convince us we don't need any stimulation, just give longer BJs and our whole world spins right and we will all be happy,,, mouth orgasms,,, ha!

 

I really didn't have the energy to read that giant response. I've orgasmed while giving head, yes. It's not something I can do on command or anything that happens regularly, but it has happened. A lot of the orgasms mentioned in that article take a great deal of concentration and practice.

My main point was just because you can't fathom different ways to orgasm, doesn't mean they don't exist.

 

Yes I have orgasmed for many reasons too but never a BJ alone, just isn't gonna happen, mind you I am betting there was much more happening for you too then just a BJ, chances are you were almost already there and your orgasm wasn't from the mouth, it was probably from the V that it happened with things going on. You don't agree?

Seriously, if we were that simple there wouldn't be sex therapists and men wondering what really makes us tick. They would just have their way with our mouths and we would have nothing to complain about. There is the short version of what I said above about your Monica site.

 

I'm almost willing to bet that you can train yourself to be orgasmic during different circumstances. For example say you are sucking a guy off while giving yourself at least one orgasm every day for a month then after a month stop stimulating yourself while giving head. After your brain gets trained to associate one sensation with the other it will happen automatically.

C/S,
Rev J

 

i assume that most men with experiences are able to orgasm during sex..

 

Big walls of text are also ignored by me.
They're like a 40 minute porn scene.. Got no time for that shit. =p

 

Well you only need to watch the first 10 minutes, kind of like walls of text. You only have to read 3 or 4 sentences to know you dont need to read anymore.

 

The first ten minutes??? I always fast forward to half way when the good stuff is happening unless the girl is fucking gorgeous and then I might just watch her strip off. The strip off can be pretty hot too but usually lasts for too long.