So, I want oral sex but my wife doesn’t do it/like it/mention it/ever talk about it. I regularly give her oral sex and I love it. She enjoys it too. Over 20 years we’ve been together and I can tell you there have been 2 occasions when I have received some ‘attention’ and that was in the first 6 months of our relationship. No coming in mouth, just a little suck and move on! How do I get her to go down on me? I don’t know so I have decided that 2020 will be a no oral sex for her year and wait for her to ask for it. That will be a good time to bring it up for me to get something. I don’t get, she don’t get.......I’ve gone for over 20 years without so one year for her will be easy right?? Is this mean or the right approach to take? Should I just talk to her? (right thing but talking about sex hasn’t worked up to now so.....)
We all have a comfort level on everything we do in life, weather it's a job or driving a certain vehicle. Sex happens to be something that one's comfort level is extremely important and must be taken serious. I was in the same position as you, except it was 10 years for me. I absolutely LOVE oral and foreplay. Turned out she hated it. I talked her into a blowjob once, which lasted less than a minute. She was so uncomfortable and almost gagging and never went past the head. That was it, and I never brought it up again for the last 9 1/2 years. I loved her dearly and as much as I love oral I just couldn't put her through that again. She loved receiving it so I always had a beautiful wet pussy to eat. Plus she had no problem lubing up her hand and massaging my cock until I blow. Her reasoning, A man cum in her mouth without any warning when she was younger and just starting to be sexually active. Choked and gagged, that was the end of oral. Now the thought of it is constantly in the back of her mind even 30 years later. She knew I wasn't the same, but that thought was stuck there forever. I always told her, love is the most important thing in my life (Hugs, cuddles, laughter, holding hands) sex is just a bonus. My current wife is a cock craving sex starved woman who can never get enough cock down her throat. So I've been much happier the last 5 years lol. Maybe have a nice talk with your wife and find out the true deep down reason she doesn't enjoy it? See if there's new things to explore? But to stop the oral that you love to give, and she loves to receive is more of a loss for both of you. I wish you both the best!!!
BoyToy69: But to stop the oral that you love to give, and she loves to receive is more of a loss for both of you. I wish you both the best!!! My thoughts exactly.
Well so far, so good. She’s not getting any and I don’t miss it. I’ll force her to bring it up herself at some point. As far as deep rooted reasons why she doesn’t want to do it. I’m the only person she’s ever been with and never had a bad experience. Maybe she just took a dislike to it the first time she tried and that was it. Still don’t understand so it’s on her to talk to me. I also thought all this lockdown shit would increase sexual things a bit as well, you know like everyone else, but alas nothing. It’ll be easier to just give up on sexual contact cos quite frankly I don’t actually give a shit and anything new that came my way anyway wouldn’t be genuine it would be forced so not exactly welcoming. Then at least I wouldn’t be thinking about it all the time
It's easy to get resentful. It's easy to get obsessed with it, too. It's not going to just magically happen either - you need to sit down and have a serious out of the bedroom talk about it. Tell her how you really feel and how you really need this from HER and how can we make it happen? Work your way up to the big event slowly - she's not going to just jump right into that.
