my partner of 7yrs has suddenly stopped going down on me over the past few months. I have bought it up time and time again. I've asked him what his problem is and apparently he doesn't have one. I've been waxing for about 5 months now which I know he likes coz he was very happy the first time. He is great at it and used to take me at least three rounds...emphasizing on the 'used to'. I stopped giving him oral as it wasn't fair but a week ago I thought F it, it might get me somewhere...it didn't. I'm so frustrated. I'm 24 almost, he's just turned 30. We only have sex maybe once a week...another thing he is oh so good at but not into lately. it's not intentional I don't think...well I don't know. My comments and jabs at hm are not getting thru. Help :-(
You are simply going through life. Sexual attraction usually tapers off over time. Statistically, most couples fuck about three times per week, whereas early on in the relationship it was invariably more frequent. I suspect this is due to the law of familiarity, that when you've been around something for long you tend to take things for granted. If your sex life isn't good anymore, there is no reason to stay so start devising your exit strategy.
Take it from me..familiarity, does slow down your your sex life , in some cases. but it could be some other, thing that is interfering with it, is he stressed out about something?? I personally have absolutely zero problem performing oral whenever my lady likes it. and I have been married for 35 years before my present relationship. If oral is a big part of your sex life {it is mine) maybe it is time, to move on to a relationship, where your partner can satisfy you...Or..if he is a great guy, and you can live with the lack of oral,.(obviously not)..Myself?? I think you are young enough to go to another relationship...There are LOTS! of guys who love performing oral..try and be upfront in your new relationship, (we appreciate it)..and if a guy is NOT! willing...kick him to the curb..Life is too short and trust me..oral guys will be beating a path to your door.. good luck
It could be he's going through something else that's stressing him out, maybe work or other things, but as others have said, typically in a relationship, there's always one person who seems to taper off first, leaving the other, sadly wanting more. Again sadly it seems to be the way of things and life for that matter. Decide what you want to do, and I certainly recommend bringing it up. Sometimes people are weird and it could be something minor, but yet embarrassing as well, you never know. Also sadly this is one of the big reasons people end up breaking up or cheating on one another is because to some the sex or partner gets old. i'm not trying to make you feel bad and there can be many other reasons, just pointing out the most likely ones. Just so your not left wondering or unsatisfied, bring it up to him straight out
You sound really, really nagging. Jabs? Not sexy. Getting your pussy eaten is not in the bill of rights, or anything. That being said, neither are you compelled to stick around.
My boyfriend once said initially that he loves doing it, but it ended up being something he rarely ever does. In the end it doesn't matter to me because I don't like it very much anyway. Deal with it or move on
I remember I did the same thing to a long-time girlfriend of mine. I guessed the reason was that in the beginning I really took great care to make her feel as good as possible, but over the years sex became pretty much routine and I no longer bothered. Among other things, I almost entirely quit going down on her, as I didn't fancy it all that much anyway, and she was too shy to ask me to do it. Are you saying you are also having sex less frequently than you used to?
Life is change. But if something changes suddenly there usually is a reason. Have a frank but not blaming discussion with him, tell him your feelings and how the change makes you feel and see if he will open up and tell you. If he has nothing to say and does not change to adapt to your needs you likely will encounter other problems in the future that also go unresolved. But remember, resolution usually involves compromise.
