Wondering how many people are in an open but committed relationship? If you are do you experience problems with your partner not giving you enough time emotionally or sexually?
Never been in one. For some reason I am the committed type and appreciate the same. If sex ended between us and we were ok being more like roommates then maybe I would consider having someone on the side but I really think that would be tricky for me in my mind anyway so it might be better if I ended the relationship first then moved on to another because then he would obviously be allowed the same and if he expected some sex with me still after being with others, I couldn't do that. It's one thing that my guy had ladies in his past but another for him to be active with them while being active with me, I am so afraid that who he is with might carry some disease I don't want or might not be clean. Weirdly enough it's as bad in my mind as if you licked your steak and offered me the rest, not that I would except even if you didn't lick it, I am just not ever that hungry I gotta eat off someone else's dish. Not that hungry for sex either to except sloppy seconds. Dunno if I am in the minority or not but it's something that is stuck in my head.
My now wife and I had an open relationship, when we were younger. She had just got out of h.s. when we started living together. I took a job where I had to be on the road, during the week. She took a job and was taking night classes. We always had great sex on weekends. A little time went by and we talked about seeing other people. She had never had another lover, but always said she wanted to. So decided to give it a try. It was her wish for it not to be friends or co-workers. And we had no secrets. Had we not decided to be open and honest. I don't think we would be together today.
My partner and I do enjoy bringing other people into our sex life once in a while, but it is something we do together. We enjoy experiencing things together. Neither one of us have any interest in having a complete open relationship. We are very satisfied with what we have together and are not looking for relationships with others. She does however have a green light from me to play with other women when the chance pops up. Not always an easy thing to find and I know how much she loves being with other women.
I'm sorry for the English but I'm an Italian webmaster, i make hard films with my boyfriend. I love this work cause I'm also an actress and I make sex with a lot of beautiful boys!!!!! I hate stay with just one person, I make sex ever with 2-3 boys and they love this way to make sex!
I had to open up my relationship specifically because I wasn't getting enough sexual attention from my husband, whose sex drive in non-existent. He is very good at making sure I know when he needs more attention, and I am very good at keying in to him, and meeting his needs.
We have an open marriage, my husband and I. We go together to swingers clubs and we also have sex with people without the participation of the other. The only limits are from his side: he'd rather I wouldn't have sex with my friends and, though I disagree with it, I respect his boundary. We've been together for over 20 years and love each other.
My longest reationship, I always said I wanted to try other people - well she knew that I did, and I would be telling her every now and again, I don't mind if you take a lover, I don't mind if you take a lover. She took that as a kind of rejection, now we broke up she understands that's just the way I am - but that I probably have intimacy issues. By her standards, she's even more of an intense connection person than me, and I think I'm out of the norm really. After we broke up though, we had one incredible threesome. It felt such pure fun, fucking hot, but more than that it felt really warm, me and her new guy sort of testing the ropes with one another, wanting to keep each other cool with things - probably knowing how men can get when they get horny. She mocked us for this politeness, and also was like 'hello - I'm here! The girl you're discussing who will fuck first?' Fucking cool. Such a shame that was when we were already broken up! She definitely will try new things, but very very consideredly. Her heart has to feel in the right place, the moment, the connection, even it's crazy
My next relationship had the opposite problem almost - the sex was always experimental but the emotional thing - no go!
This is almost exactly the relationship my husband and I have. We're very loving and committed to each other, but if a situation comes up where we want to bring another woman into the mix casually, then we go for it.
