Open marriages/relationships

God luck to the both of you!

 

I met my wife when she was in high school and I had gotten out of the Army! She had a boyfriend at the time but I talked her into a date and broke her cherry the very same night we went out! She began fucking both of us all through her senior year and when she graduated from high school I married her and I kept sharing her with her boy friend! In time she had other boyfriend's who she fucked also any time she wanted to which was often and that is the way it now after 21 years of marriage!

 

so it must have worked for you as well as her!

Do u think she has a higher libido?

Simon

 

Defiantly! There are times she has two boyfriends and see's them often! After all these years I'm used to it!

 

Maybe she needs a little push! reassurance!

 

and never bothered you? I had a 3 with my wife and another biguy for 5 months and it didn't bother me having another guy fuck her, and by all accounts watching me and him together didn't bother her either...the opposite, she found it hot. But it did bother her me meeting other guys on my own.

Simon

 

There is a part of me that envies your marriage, particularly after I had my tubes tied after having four children. But such an arrangement was an anathema to my husband, so it didn't happen. He needed to know that my sex organs were for his exclusive use (well, ok, mine too, lol). As we age, though, I have found there is a certain comfort level with monogamy. One thing that I don't think has a place in a marriage is deception- and it looks as though you avoided that.

I do wonder who derives more satisfaction from open marriages- men or women. The conventional attitude is men appreciate it more. Certainly in my marriage, that has not been the case.

 

Deception no not in our marriage after all it was I who told my wife she could keep seeing her boyfriend and at first she said no way but as time went by she changed her mind and our open marriage began! That answers your question who derives more satisfaction in a open marriage men or women in our marriage I do! I just love it when my wife see's another man knowing she desired by other men! I encourage her to have one night stands when ever she wants one! Am I nuts!

 

if it works for u two not at all

Simon

 

For those who have an open marriage, do you ever let your wife stay over night with a lover or even for a weekend! I have!

 

Thank you!...

 

Hey Poplo - 2 questions. 1.) Do you agree to her having a boyfriend primarily because it gets you aroused or because of her own needs for another guy/variety? 2.) How has her attitude or mood changed since she began having a boyfriend? (Is it different , and how so?)

 

When I met her she was a virgin but had a boyfriend! She went out with me and I broke her cherry after that she left her boyfriend and she became my gal! One night she asked me if she could see her ex again and frankly the thought she wanted to see him and she wasn't a virgin any more she wanted to give him what she hadn't given him before got me HOT! As for her mood sure it has changed she seems to be more happy and why not!

 

Thanks for responding, Poplo. Is she still seeing other guys? If so, how often does she get together with them, or is it one steady guy?

 

At this time she has a steady guy who she see's often at his apartment! If she is going to stay over night she calls me! She met him one night when she went out with the girls she knows at a night club!

 

She can have a one night stand when ever she wants too but needs to tell me if not before after!

 

Do you ever stay the night with a lover!

 

Interesting .... back when I might have wanted to explore open marriage, I somehow envisioned it as having fb's where 95% of the relationship was "just sex". Now that didn't work with my marriage, but I think I would have wanted to go back home to hub (when he was not away for his job). But, by that time I had a family, so that made a big difference. Still, remembering from my single days, I think staying over night with a lover would intrude on a relationship in a way that simple sexual encounters do not.

 

Well it all depends how strong a relationship is! My wife has enjoyed many lovers since we began an open marriage some she has admitted falling in love with but at the end she always comes back to me! Staying over night or entire weekend is common for her!

 

my wife found that she got very emotionally attached; I think many women have a problem separating sex from emotion. Men tend to have less problem imho

Simon