Ooops! Wife Found My Butt Plug.

Last night I got home before my wife and since I was super horny I decided to take care of myself. I thought I cleaned up and covered my tracks but I forgot to put away my but plug and left it on the bathroom counter. Once she found it she asked me what it was and if it was mine. I told her and admitted to ownership. She didn't say anything. In fact she ignored me the rest of the night and most of the day today. I have never told her that I like anal and have fantasies about being with guys. I guess I have always been ashamed of having these feelings and afraid of what people would say. I have only recently myself accepted that I am bisexual (or at least curious) and I really have no idea how or if I'm gonna tell my wife the whole truth. I think it's kinda funny that she found it and in a way I am looking forward to coming out to her and seeing what happens.

 

Why don't you tell her you just enjoy masturbating with a butt plug inside you for starters? I'm sure that most women will be OK with that.
It may be a little better than 'coming out' to her, as you put it.

 

When she found it you could have shouted "Happy Birthday (Anniversary, Mother's Day, or whatever) honey!"

 

Yeah it would probably be easier on her to not hit her with everything all at once. It's just one of those things that I would like it to just be out and over with already. This is a confusing situation and I appreciate the input.

 

Since your wife found your butt plug, and the cat is now out of the bag regarding you liking things up your ass, why not just ask your wife to peg you with a strap on dildo? It could be a lot of fun and beneficial for both you

 

OK, so she now knows you use a butt plug. Did you know that massaging the prostate is a good thing to do for the sexual health of your prostate?
I know a guy who tried a butt plug but it's not long enough so it didn't work. Maybe that's what you were trying?

So now you need a proper anal toy.

Tell her that about the butt plug and that you now need an anal toy and don;t miss out on mentioning the prostate health.
She may realize the medical nature is important and from then on, she may help you.
And then gradually you might say you like it and want more. And gradually bring her around.
Pushing it in her face (so to speak) all in one hit is a little unfair on her because she knows your relationship as it is today. She'll need time to know that you aren't really destabilizing it but that it is changing.

Don't forget; you can push firmly but gently on something and it will respond as you hope. (like a tug pushing a ship).
If you give it a thump, it'll dent or break, like a boxers nose.
Be a tug and steer your relationship instead of braking it.

my 2c

 

It’s not unusual for men to enjoy having something in their ass. Even guys that don’t pursue sex with other men.
My wife found out I liked it when she started to put her dildo we were using on her against my ass when I was on top of her going to town. I reached behind me and took it and wiggled it into my ass and proceeded to blow a huge load soon after I did.
At that point I think she knew. Lol.

 

So what! Wife has one also . We liked to hump our buttplugs against each others and masturbate. Its just pleasurable fun.

 

My wife was so OK with it, she started to dildo my ass herself and found it to be Fun.

 

Well. The OP looks like he made that post and never returned.

I had a similar experience. I escaped unscathed.

At this point in time my wife had a small sex toy collection and I would use the toys on myself when she wasn't home. There was a cute little pink bulbous vibrator I liked using on myself. Once while she was away I had used it on myself. Cleaned it and put it on the shelf above the tub to dry before putting it away. Ooooops. Forgot.

DAYS later I walked by and glanced down (we both usually shower) at the tub and there it sat! In plain view! She was in the closet essentially in the same room. I couldn't just grab it up. So I got her attention and just pointed at it with my mouth a gape. "How long has that been sitting there?" I asked her. She's a natural blonde, clueless. She just shrugged her shoulders. She may have thought she left it there. Anyways, diverted off of me.