online love...do u believe it can work?

Online relationships sound great!Why?Becuz:1)They're cheap-no expensive restaurants or nights out on the town.2)They're free of sexual diseases.3)You can have several w/o getting caught cheating.I'm sure there are more good things about them,but I think you get my point.Until you meet a person face to face,you haven't really dated.Internet relationships are time wasters and are not real,but only imaginary relationships.Let's see,can you have kids and share a home online?You get my drift.

 

Not to sound harsh, but I keep getting this phrase running thrrough my head, "if it isnt mutual it isnt real

 

there's an extremely huge difference between maintaining a relationship with someone you've never met via the internet, and actually meeting the person with whom you've been speaking (via the computer/phone). don't get me wrong, the internet can help you meet people you might not have encountered otherwise, but meeting is vital if it is to be called love (in the fullest sense).

i think people can meet on the internet, and then meet physically (i'm not equating that with sex, i just find the phrase 'real life' to be subjective and patronizing in this sense).. and from there, love can develop. but, when you "meet" someone online -- without ever meeting that person in real life -- it seems more like you just have the desire to love him/her (and the desire to be loved by that individual).

personally, i think it would be nearly impossible to comepletely, truly love someone (in the highest sense of the word) without ever making eye contact, reading the energy that flows through their movements, and experiencing the feeling of just sitting next to, or hugging, the other person (i'm not saying that blind paraplegics are unlovable -- if two people communicate through written emails, i think it's a safe assumption that both have at least some vision).

so in terms of, "online love," i don't believe it can really be love until you've met face-to-face.. but if it's just an, "online relationship," then yes, i think it can work.

i was a little confused as to how to respond, because the subject was, "online love," but in the body of the thread, you asked about an, "online relationship," and those are two very, very different things.

 

I say it can work. But it really depends on the person. It worked for me. Now we're living together and planning on getting married someday. Sure it's not easy but I think it's almost the samething as a long distance relationship.

 

i agree..

 

I met my current boyfriend online, we chatted as just friends for 5 months then finally decided to meet and we hit it off right off the bat. so yes i believe that an online relationship can work as long as you take it outside of the internet too.

 

Depends. In this internet heavy culture, I expected quite a few "yes" it can and so on. I've had both the good, bad, and ugly when it came to online relations and this is what I personally think; no way no how.

For a touchy feelie person such as myself who likes to express herself in the real world along side the cyber world, the net is a poor reflector for the genuine me. Sure I can think things out longer, make friend all over the world but I need real contact not occasional "visual" meetings with people. Anyway, this is about love so, no I don't think it could work. I prefer to date in the real world, hug in the real world, make love in the real world, argue in the real world and let's face it, the net is not the real world no matter how many images you send, no matter the sentiment, and the like. It is great for keeping in contact with one's lover if they happen to live in another city in the same state you do. However, I would very much prefer expressing my feelings to my lover in the real world, not just using a bunch of binary code turned to text. For me, its not enough-its like some dreamland and I never leave. Dreamland is ok sometimes until it comes to relationships then I need to feel more grounded in the weirdness that is reality.

Again, just my $0.02 cents.

urby

 

I think that you can find love on the internet. Over the Christmas holidays I met with a girl that I had been talking to for about ten months. We had the best relationship in the net and when we finally got together things just became more amazing. She is the love of my life and I wouldn't want it any other way. Right now she is in college but in April (if the universe allows it) I will be moving up to Toronto to be with her. This is a very hard step in our relationship but when we get through this we can get through anything. She is everything to me. When I had to leave I started to cry...that was weird because nothing like that has ever happend. Love over the internet is possible...very possible.

Casper