Years ago when I used to go on tagged or plenty of fish I used to get replies a couple of situtations I met people offline but recently I get no replies at r it's like year after year people become more and more anti social. I'm from NYC it was not.uncommon for strangers to start a conversation with you now everyone is so closed off and people are more doctor jeckell.and me hyde I wonder what happened what are yall.opinions
i'm pretty sure the online dating fad has passed. the idea didn't live up to its potential, so people stopped using it. i haven't really noticed any difference in real life interactions.
Pre 21st century I met a lot of women in Yahoo personals. So many that friends would ask if I was still with "that Yahoo woman?" Yahoo personals are gone and so are the women. Never had much success with women on Cl, mostly hooked up with men. And now CL is gone and so are the men.
I think online dating is a joke really. In years past I belonged to a few of those sites several of which gave you the view count which was always pretty good but as usual there was never anyone remotely close to my location. This kind of thing satisfies the voyeur in all of us but little else. A recent report showed an alarming number of older Americans living alone with no friends no activity in life other than the mundane things we do on a daily basis. Twenty five ( 25) % of adult Americans have no human being available to discuss important matters with. ( loneliness ) Social isolation is detrimental to our health and mental well being.
New Athenian pretty much sums up my day life. After spending most of my adult life in a large metropolitan area on retirement I moved a much smaller town. The big box stores are Way-Mart and Lowes. One major grocery chain, no specialty shops and only a few decent restaurants, all of which close at 9 o'clock. At my age, most of my friends have either died or moved to more moderate climes. The locals I have met seem friendly but have their own lives. I can't wait until few years when I can move back to the city.
Even in real life at one point or was common to cold approach a women in the street but now at least in NYC people don't even talk to women in the streets anymore I really wonder what happened it's like things change out the blue
if online dating is dead and women don't want to be approached then how are people going to date it's like we are becoming more like japan where the male s are single.it's like we are going to lead very social isolating lives. When people were younger they were outside or at someones house now it's like everyone is on the house like they are going but love the lives of old men times changed
I absolutely agree with you. It seems like now a days anything can be considered harassment. People seem so afraid. The story above is a clear example. I didn't see any serious harassment in that story. Of course i wasn't present but just that story alone didn't present anything serious. And even when people are out and about, they seem too preoccupied with their stupid phones. Its not uncommon for me to walk down the streets and have a person almost walk right into me because their on their little phones. Whenever i'm overseas this isn't an issue. People are much more lively, friendlier, women would come up to you and chat if they like you. Less zombie-like.
That happens a lot. But seriously, street harassment? There is a problem with catcalling at women you do not even know. Apparently, cities like New York actually have issues with this. Thank goodness it's less prevalent where I live; in a smaller/less populated area.
I think it just takes the joy and spontaneity out of finding a mate. I'm sure it's possible to find something meaningful on a dating app, but I don't think it's how most people would like to meet someone.
yeah, a woman walked by a place where some rednecks were minding their own business in a rednecky way, and it's the example of why women can't go out in public? the guys in the tent probably wrote into their favorite hunting magazine about how they were hanging out in the park and suddenly there were women walking by and stepping in the river, so therefore the world is unsafe for men.
I don't think people use dating websites anymore, but dating apps are as popular as ever, from what I can tell. Personally, I don't meet many people in person that I really connect with--seems like meeting one on a dating app is an exercise in futility. I don't notice much of the "zombie-like" phone-staring that you all describe. I suppose I am guilty of it from time to time, but I prefer to stay alert while I walk around, only checking my phone to change the song/podcast that I am listening to.
If I had a dollar for every time someone advised me against walking (let alone hiking) alone...well, you know. I would have a lot of money. While everything cited in that article that soulcompromise quoted is essentially true (women have to think and plan a lot about safety while out alone) and rather unfortunate, there is a balance to be had. Although I do wish that I could just venture into the woods or a park without planning how not to get murdered, I try and not let fear of what a few crazy folks might do to me stop me from doing things that I enjoy.
I think you need to go out with a few people before finding your mate on the dating apps because the TV commercial is always like "I met a few matches but we never really had a connection... Until I met..." so don't stop just because you met a clown on your first try, you might get a bus driver your 2nd and by your 3rd or 4th match date, you're looking solid gold. Hehe.
A lot of people going with a dating site or app are pragmatic. They might prefer the ideal spontaneous meeting irl too but found out its just a meager chance. This might be the case here in the Netherlands too. But going by the comments on this forum over the years dating sites on average worked better here anyway than in the US. I still haven't tried any, but still would if I insisted on finding a partner!
As I said in another post I used to open doors for women and speak to them with a friendly " hi " or maybe " good morning " but no more . Even in church it's becoming the same way humanity is withdrawing from the open face to face exchange and personally I believe fear is the motivation behind it. Human beings no longer trust anything or anybody so that being the case why would we want to speak to any of them ? When we think about it technology is actually and enabler of these feelings . Even the routine trip to the grocery is about to disappear as we return to at home delivery we'll no longer encounter our neighbors and others at the grocery. Distrust is rising infecting every aspect of our society, business, entertainment, church, sports, politics/government, etc. Recent studies have shown that as men and women sit down for a business meeting they're thinking things like " this sucker has got to be lying somehow " . That's a poisonous and truly unproductive way to get started.
Well for me I'd say no , I've seen this coming for quite some time really . I'd be more willing to describe it as creeping isolationism more than anything else. We're rapidly becoming an anti-social society if not already.
