Ok... do you think I was right or wrong?

Some guy at work today put up a huge poster of a full frontal nude woman.

I told him to take it down, my exact words were...

"Take that f**king porn down off the wall... There are women in this office who have struggled their arses off to get equality here and you are just taking the piss" (yes I did lose my patience with him, you have to know Sean to know why!)

When he refused to take it down I took it down for him.

Now she was a very pretty lady and the photo didn't offend me in itself... but there is a time and a place for everything.

My opinion was that it was unprofessional to customers and contractors etc etc... as well as offensive to people who don't agree with porn and disrespectful to the women in the office who are struggling to gain equality as it is. It is also against company policies...

My question is... what would you have done? (after having a good old oggle first of course )

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i would agree .....it does not belong in the work place


how ever you sending me nuddies.....is alright with me claire

 

hahaha!

Gees, drop it! No nuddies for Mr Whispers

 

i would have got a naked man photo and replaced it ! then asked him how it made him feel...

 

... but that could have turned the place into a porn war! How the hell would I concentrate on my work

 

yeah you were right in taking that poster down claire. not for the workplace i reckons. sean sounds like a right fidget biscuit.

 

....fine

now i have nothing to live for claire ........i hope your happy

 

emotional blackmail will not help!.... try hard cash

 

Nudity doesn't bother me or offend me ... I just think there is a time and a place for everything, and work isn't really that place. Nor the tabloids either come to that. My local mechanic has nude pictures all over the workshop ... I wonder how his female punters must feel.

If I worked in an office full of women though I might be a bit uncomfortable if they filled the wall up with naked firemen or similar.

I wouldn't complain though ... It might encourage me to get back down the gym or something.

Actually ... why wouldn't I complain? hmmmm *ponders*

I think what has happened is that many men can now feel quite disenfranchised about their role in society ... It's ok for a woman to complain about men going to strippers, putting up posters and similar ... but if a man complains my guessing is he'll get comments like "Don't be a spoilsport, it's only a bit of fun" etc.

There are a lot of double standards out there, both from men and from women ... I guess the best thing would be for us all to act a bit more appropriately to each other.

 

i think you did the right thing... i woulda
what did he say when you took it down?

 

I don't know the enviroment you work in claire ?. But i assume it is quite profesional ?

A huge picure ? poster size or A4 .. i suppose it does not matter ?. I would not have jumped down the guys throat , just asked him if he could think about what he was doing ? .. If it was common practice thats one thing ?. If just this individual then ?, a group vote might have resolved this .. At least he could have demonstrated any respect he may have for your feelings ?.. I fear he may just take a sneaky picture of you somehow , blow it up and super impose your face onto a nude picture , in who knows what type of position ?.

 

hmm he keeps trying to take a pic up my skirt with his camera phone

but he's being trying that for months...

Porn is against company rules anyway... I was kinda saving him from a disiplinary ...

But you are right I shouldn't have sworn at him... but the guy is a bafoon and tries my patience so I find it hard to care

 

He probaly knows this kind of thing will wind you up.. may have been why he did it. Strange how the ritual of courtship works ?. He clearly has no clue that this is not going to get him anywere ?. OR he may even know he has no chance with you and is merely trying just to get your attention and any kind of communication with you ?. However this may come about. Prety sad realy..

Just let him do whatever ?... i say , if it is against company policy , and your company is good .. others will take appropriate action ?.. and you need not concern yourself with this dick head ?.

 

Have been thinking about this for awhile....

Basically I have two arguments...

first part of me thinks hell it is only a bit of porn it is 2005 who cares, so some people might not like it then hell get over it..Put up your own pics of fireman or pics of vivisection and get your point across..If he is a dick then let him face the consequences for his actions...If the image is hurting no one and is not incitiment to racial hatred or the like then hell let it be....Freedom of expression and all that..

second part of me thinks that you asked nicely (well I take it you did) and pointed out valid reasons why you didn't want the picture up, this is enough in my mind for him to concede and take it down...The image has no political merit and is for reasons of self satisfaction only, also is not really appropriate in a work environment..

So I don't really know....Good for you though Claire for stating your beliefs where many wouldn't have....

So was she a blonde or Brunette??

 

Brunette

 

Well, she was blond but the collar didn't match the cuffs

 

Damm I like blonds......

 

I think you did absolutely did the right thing. No question about it. Even if you assume that porn's ok in private (which I don't!), putting a poster like that up so publically simply supports the objectification of women and helps to perpetuate a role where you're subordinated to the position of a male sexual fantasy, rather than an equal. Whatever else, nobody's stupid enough to put up a poster like that without expecting to offend someone. So on that level alone it's a confrontational act.

Just to be clear, nudity isn't the problem. The problem's the portrayal of women as objects who exist for the satisfaction of men. If women were even portrayed as equal participants rather than passive recipients of male sexual prowess then it might be a little less offensive.

 

Dok have you heard "No answer for a dancer" by Consolidated....Is a discussion between a man and a lap dancer and addresses these issues of portrayal very well....

If you haven't I will send you a copy for your listening pleasure..

 

Granted a percentage of woman and men get nothing out of being in porn .. but misery. The fact is , it is a billion dollar industry ..and 99% of people involved understand what your saying , but completly disagree.

You should read some of their websites Dok'...