Non-drinking life

have you considered AA, Prax?

 

That's sexy.

 

lol... thanks... i don't know what's so sexy about not drinking/smoking/potting it up, but sure!

i just haven't had the money to indulge in "extras." and for a while i had a job where i could get randomly drug tested.

 

As a last resort.

A buddy of mine had a ball in the meetings. All sorts of weirdos-

But I always choose the loneliest path.

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* Hey, zen- which one is that movie takes place in a rehab?

I wanna watch it again.

 

Get out of the city, mang, and find something you love that isn't focused around booze.

 

yeah, they are interesting folks.
I don't know about the film, I need more information. I can think of several that have rehab scenes, but none that are really set in that environment come to mind.

 

it's a chick flick, but 28 days with sandra bullock is about her being in rehab, and most of it takes place there, if i remember correctly.

 

That's it.

She's real hot in that movie.

 

yes, she is. and i thought that might be the one you were talking about. all in all a decent movie, for a chick flick. i dunno why, but i'm apparently prejudiced against chick flicks.

 

I remember that movie. Anyway good luck man, I understand how tough it is. Maybe you could find a group of friends that are going out and doing other things than going to bars. And physical activity is always good, find a sport you can get really into. Yoga, meditation, martial arts, all of those seem like they could be helpful. Anything that takes a high level of focus will keep your mind occupied and not thinking about boozin it.

If you want to go dancing but don't want to put yourself in a bar environment, you could always go take some salsa or ballroom lessons. You might meet a hottie there who is doing the same thing, you never know. Or at the least you would have some good skills to bust out in the future.

 

I didn't know you had a drinking problem, praxis.

Good for you taking care of yourself.

 

I've been going without booze and drugs for well over 22 years. Sure as hell beats the previous 15 years of total blitz.

 

i agree...


i'm very curious to see how it goes for your, praxis... i know you can do this...

 

i was a daily drinker for over 20 years and i have to say quitting is easy,relearning who you are sober is the hard part.
prax,my advice is to try and find things that you enjoy sober,because for me at least,many of the things i enjoyed as pastimes when i was drinking,just were not the same sober..

good luck to you.. i been sober 19 months now. if i can do it.. so can you..

 

Thanks for the well-wishers - mitten, deviate, hillbilly, olhippie, scarlett.

As it's been mentioned, I'm finding I have to completely restructure my social life and free time.

I'm also battling the feeling of loneliness since many of my "friendships" were contigent on drinking.

Slowly, I expect to form more rewarding relationships in other realms of life.

I put a list together of 10 alcohol-unrelated activities that I'm interested in and could do in my down time.

Deviate ~ I think I will take dancing lessons. I also meditate and exercise daily for a while now.

 

I have toned down my drinking a lot when I was young (16-22) I loved to get drunk. It is really not that great of a headspace, sloppy, stupid and blurry.

I’ve been around some really hardcore alcohols before and it makes too much alcohol look really unappealing.

Now days I just drink a few cold beers now and then.

 

oh i know the friendship thing as well.. we went from not being able to get people to leave here to having no one even call to say hi..

you dont need friends that are only friends when your drinkin no way..
and yes,at least for me,the relationships i now have are much more meaningful than anything i had as a alcoholic..

your gonna be so glad you took this step in a few months.. trust me..

 

Good for you Praxis. If its not making you happy or you feel unfulfilled...then by all means take the step to make yourself fulfilled.

Dancing lessons are fun. I have a friend teaching me to salsa. YOu know the scene in Dirty Dancing where its the two chicks dancing together......tryng to teach the one how to follow...yep that's us. She is a hottie too. Lucky girl I am.

Anyway....I wish you luck. You seem to have a really good head on your shoulders. My pop said when he quit drinking his friends told him that he wasn't any fun anymore. He told them that since he wasn't drinking he wasn't entertained by them either. SO yeah, it's difficult to find a new you.

 

I've seen people drink-to make people laugh , make people like em , relax , become less shy.
When I was 16 or 17 , we'd all get hammered .. get a huge buzz.. and really mix.

But , soon u cant get the "hit" anymore - but some keep chasing it.
And it becomes more counter productive for achieving the things u thought it gave u.

You need interests outside of getting hammered.Good luck!

 

For the record, I am brazilian and therefore would never consider taking salsa in the slightest!

I like tango and breakdancing.