no strings attached...

ok, first off... lucky... are you feeling ok? just asking, because this whole thread thing seems a little wacked. closing and opening threads and posting a shit ton and changing posts and shit... i don't know, it's just kinda... odd.

anyways. i swore i wasn't going to respond to all this freaking drama that i never planned to have going, but i'm going to, because you've got your information SO screwed up it's not even funny. you obviously didn't read what i said very closely. and if you're going to be doing the moderator thing and modifying/closing this thread for moderator reasons, i really think you have the duty to read things closely, or you might actually miss something important.

here is a quote from my original post, talking about the woman i got involved with.

that was the situation that was going on at the time. it is over now, because i DON'T like being treated like shit by anyone, especially lovers. now... is it clear that i'm talking about a woman who is married, but who has the agreement with her husband that she can also be with women, and who was in a relationship with me, and that my partner jrnyman (who started this thread) also knew about every detail of this. am i being clear on this now?

then you refer to being my soulmate and best friend. i was NO LONGER talking about this woman, i was talking about my parner jrnyman, and it was in a completely different post. here it is.

this is where i was talking about how i really DO treasure my relationship with jrnyman, and i don't let my (our, since we both want an open relationship) desire for an open relationship destroy the wonderful thing we have. because it is awesome. and i do hope all works out so at the end of our lives, jrnyman and i still wake up next to each other every morning. but just because we love each other and want to share our lives, doesn't mean we get absolutely everything we need from each other 100% of the time. i don't believe human beings are meant to do that across the board. some, yes. others, no. i'm a fucking lesbian for christ's sakes... i still wanna be with women sometimes. and he loves women, i know he wants to be with other women sometimes too. and i think that's ok.

all i/we wanted to discuss with this thread is whether or not it's possible to love another person, be in relationship with another person, without immediately making that connect to long term/forever/happily ever after.

and maybe i am a sensitive person... actually, yes, i know i'm a sensitive, emotional person. and you know what? i think that's a GIFT. it means i'm loving and caring, and that i am not shutting myself off in order to keep from getting hurt. i'm sorry if it bothers you that i just want people to be nice to each other when they're discussing things in a thread that my lover and i made. but for some reason, this thread brought up all kinds of agression, and that's wierd to me. it's supposed to be a thread about love, not anger and attitude.

but whatever... i'm done. i've learned what i needed from this social experiment

 

hell yeah sista.

you know, i have gone through the last pages, and frankly i can't even tell what happened to this thread. maybe it's because half the posts have been deleted.

and somehow i don't feel the need to explain anything i said since the people i wanted to understand (OP and loverwoman) DID

fancy that.

 

yay zilla! once again you bring peace and balance to the world... or you'll eat us! lol... you rock, woman.

 

haha ugh. i wish i were queen pacifist!

no, really, love a good fight

 

Tree hugger. I cut out a bunch of drama.. from everyone ... anything that was off topic.

Uh yeah sorry I don't have the interest to read about your fucking life and get every name right and blah blah. and being a mod has nothing to do with that. I have no obligation to read about your little soap opera.

and lol. seriously. this is just hilarious. i didnt bring the hate. i brought an opinion and was trying to give advice.. when the original question in a PUBLIC FORUM says "can you have a relationship with no strings attached?" guess what hun? that is what i respond to. no need for me to keep straight this lover n this one and oh she's sensive and then there is some other couple tagteaming. im feeling more then okay.
thinking this is a bit ridiculous though. im a sensitive person as well, hence why i was trying to give you advice. and if you wanna call it a gift, go ahead. LOLZ. kay.. i gave you guys a chance to talk on the TOPIC and emotions flared again. obviously what i just wrote was not read. so it's closed again and will not be reopened and cleaned up again. peace and good luck with your soap operas.. i mean relationships.

 

yeah keep deluding yourself into there was a fight. i just see a couple people too dense to read and understand. oh wells.

have fun in your own little fairy world.