no strings attached...

jealousy... i want it all when i have someone. i don't wanna share fluids or feelings. i'm just selfish that way.

 

Yeah ofcourse its possible-infact its exactly what a lot of guys and girls go looking for.

The problems I've had were when the girl tried to kid herself she was "so important" that fucking her wasnt enough.ie she expected "kissing arse" too and threw her toys out of the pram and caused shit.

People like that arent worth bothering with.
But sure , yeah some people get attached , and bizarre even before its been got down to , so it wouldnt be possible.

 

We discussed that whole issue in my I need to fuck thread..

I think it's possible if no feelings get in the way.

 

i like the way it works for you guys! we were actually talking about this after reading your comments in the thread. we ARE about the free lovin'... at least theoretically. but everytime it gets close to happening with someone, things start to get wierd with OUR relationship. and we want above all, to preserve that relationship. so far we've kind of thought it would end up being a "whatever goes" kind of thing, as long as we talk about it first.

BUT, i like the idea of only doing stuff with the other person present. cause as much as i trust him, and i hope he trusts me, it's hard to not get jealous, because women see their babies in his eyes... lol! and if we were both there, maybe it wouldn't be so easy for the other person to start craving that one on one, committed relationship that's obviously not possible... with either of us.

and i'm not sure how much i want to have sex with other women without him present, because for me, that would be like him going out and having sex with another woman without me there... given my lezbo history!

i dunno... i'm kind of leaning towards everything being only when we're both there, to begin with at least, and see where that goes. i was thinking last night, that it's so hard for me to imagine not ever having sex with anyone new ever again... but at the same time, it's almost comforting to think of that. guess i'm just not sure what i want. eh... if we stop looking for it, it'll prolly fall in our laps... and start sucking and licking or something.

 

It's possible, for some people. Some people sex is more emotional then just sex, so I believe it depends on the person.

 

that's exactly it. we just set ground rules so that, when it DOES fall into your lap, licking an sucking furiously, you keep your head on your shoulders and don't get lost in the lust. i never did anything aside from kissing a girl before i got with dean, so he loves when i try new things.

i totally trust him, but i want him to myself when it comes to sex, because most women are not to be trusted, in my opinion ... he is an amazing guy, and i know other women see that!

at this point, i would give up sex with anyone besides him in a heartbeat if he needed me to. but honestly, i think he likes watching me with other people more than i even enjoy it myself! kinky bastard. but i love it, and i have opened up so much to the crazy possibilities of free love.

 

i think it depends on the sex... for example: once with me and you're hooked

 

Of COURSE it is possible.

It is just not possible for everyone and you never know if you're getting someone who it is truly possible for or not.

 

Hah.

 

I like the idea of taking breaks better.

 

haha shut up.
that's totally what i thought it would be like.
i'm an animal in the sack.
but it just makes him want more...
MEN!

 

I think setting ground rules or calling it no strings attached is actually... well, no offense but a tad bit dumb. But I also think just because you have sex with a friend or whatever.. you shouldn't EXPECT shit... if the time is right for both ppl and they want to develop something further, cool. If not...also cool. If someone needs to break it off for whatever reason, no questions asked. It's really just going with the flow, knowing what is or isn't meant to be will or won't be and thinking about what is and not what isn't. And being very mindful or people's feelings and honest if need be... not ever lying and making someone think something that isn't just to sleep with them. It's very simple.

 

luckystripe... you never fail to amaze me.

in a perfect world your scenario would work out just dandy. but in real life people have feelings and these feelings can change from good to sour if things don't go as planned. In my experience, i've learned that setting ground rules is necessary for keeping the peace not just for others, but for yourself. You may find out that you want one thing, and realize it's not what you want at all in reality.

lets see how it works out when the person who you would die for goes off and fucks another girl/guy and decides to spend less and less quality time with you all because you gave the impression to them that they can do whatever the hell they want because its their god given right. I guess you would be preatty pissed off, lonely and sad... but i guess that's all apart of going with the flow?

 

i would never take relationship from lucky anyway..

 

Hey... don't tell me "in the real world...feelings this or that" when I wrote that you HAVE to be mindful of feelings...and I meant it. I guess if someone said to me "here are the ground rules" I would cut off any idea because I would either A- feel offended that they felt the need to tell me rules out loud (that btw, rules exist but in the correct set up, with the right people AT the right time, such rules go unspoken and by BEHAVIORS or lack thereof.) OR B- they are fucking lame and if they need those rules... run like fucking hell.

Of course if there are unspoken rules, people just abide by them and look for unspoken clues and as I said from the GETGO, be MINDFUL of FEELINGS.

If I didn't feel someone was into that... there is no way in hell I'd get into said situation.

 

Hehe...that's good cause I'm not looking and I have no problem finding my own anyways....

 

p.s. zilla
if i did want someone to "take relationship" it would not be some rude, punk 19 year old online i never talked to. lmfao. so THANK YOU for not being interested. makes it easier for me.

:lol: z!

 

I think it should,
But it depends on the person,
There are those who know its just sex
And their are those who decided to add emotions to it

 

yep. different people... but also people can change. something that can start as "just sex" for someone can change at anytime, esp. if they are also friends and that is when knowing intuitively when to get out so not to hurt them helps.

 

YOu make a good point.
People are generally emotional ppl