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Well neither is my body. But my fiance didn't complain the first time she saw me naked (mind you, it was pretty dim in the beach hut).

Also, I've read your other posts before and you seem to have, imho, a rather unhealthy obsession with physical appearances. Sure, it's normal to be attracted to pretty girls; what guy isn't? And it's even normal to want to be attractive to girls - what guy doesn't want that? But you need to be able to see BEYOND these things, BEYOND the girl's physical beauty and your own (perceived) physical ugliness. My fiance's pretty, but that's not why I asked her to marry me. And as I've said, I don't have an attractive body, but that didn't stop her from saying yes.

 

You have to love yourself before you love others.
People are not perfect. They never will be.
Looks fade away with time, personality is forever.

Wow, that was the most cliched post I have ever made. It's all true though.

 

so very very true.

 

If you go to the library and cry, you could probably start fixing your problems by not doing that.

 

So you think that me doing that will make myself look silly and make things worse for myself?

I don't cry much, and if I cut myself or anything, I wouldn't cry - I NEVER cry.

 

Wow, I thought society only fucked up girls but I guess not.
If your personality is good, than women will love you no matter what.

And stretch marks are NOT weird on guys.
And you don't even have to be fat.
It's anytime your body grows faster than your skin.

No one is perfect.

Perfection is way overrated.

A guy who stresses over dumb shit,
will never be attractive to a girl.

Loosen up. :tongue:

 

I agree!

 

you hit the nail on the head. Perfection has become the standard nowdays. Haha, that's why I don't watch much tv or read contemporary literature.

It's getting harder and harder for people to just be themselves today.

 

Well this afternoon (Tuesday) two girls walked past whilst I was waiting outside a room to see the tutor for my communications presentation this afternoon, and one of the girls who was a pretty blonde sort of looked at me and smiled, and I just looked at her and felt touched by that.

Then again, why did she do it, and what did I do to deserve it?

I'm not complaining, but I can't quite work out why she did it, and whether she truly meant it or whether it was fake and as if she felt sorry for me.

I just don't understand because I mean the vast majority of people at college hate me, and then all of a sudden, a pretty blonde girl smiles at me - What does that mean?

I didn't take it too seriously, but I was touched by it.

When I say touched, I wasn't over-excited or really chuffed about it, but you get what I mean - I didn't get carried away with euphoria, and I NEVER do.

 

its so funny, you remind me of my friend.


Something my friend does, btw hes a virgin of 17 years, is that he puts the female animal on a pedastol. Dont be like the 40 year old virgin, putting that pussy on a pedistol.

Juusssst take it eeeeassssyyyy. Its not that big of a deal.

 

my only advice to you: CHILL!

 

Chris, I'd tell you to smoke a blunt ( a fat blunt ) but the medical professionals here at HF have told me that it won't help you. Maybe she smiled at you because you're a cutie, Chris. And why would she feel sorry for you? What do you do that inspires pity in strangers?

Normal people give other people consideration, like holding doors open or making eye contact/smiling. I smile at people just because it feels good. Chris, do you just smile at random people? Sometimes a smile can make somebody's entire day better.

Like some others have said, CHILL!

 

Well some people can only smile, look and feel sorry for people.

I don't smile at all, and I can't do it or express it very well - It's a lot easier when it's genuine, rather than when it's fake and put on, and I can't exactly fake a smile without looking silly and feeling it at the same time.

I agree.

 

Well she was normal and straight-faced, but as soon as she saw me, it was a quick smile, then she was straight-faced and walked off as normal.

If she'd have been happy, she'd be smiling all the way.

I don't like it when people put on a false smile just to try to make me happy, or whatever.

If they don't mean it genuinely, then they shouldn't do it at all and send out the wrong signals.

It doesn't really wash with me, and i've seen my mother often give me smiles like that in the past for a split second, so it's nothing new.

 

Or it could be a smile used as a greeting. It may not mean she's happy to see you, but it doesn't mean she's NOT happy to see you - it could be just saying "hello". Not necessarily false.

 

Well if it was her way of a greeting, then why do it in that way?

If she wanted to say Hello, she could at least say Hi or Hiya, and i'd then ask her what she wants and if it's her idea of a joke - Even if it makes her feel the guilty person, at least then i'd know.

It gets on my nerves when people "try" to be nice, when they don't mean it - I'd know if someone meant something genuinely or not.

 

I don't usually say hello to strangers, I just give them a smile.

You agree with me that a smile can make somebody's day better, but it seems like a smile can ruin YOUR day. Somebody smiled at me yesterday, and elderly black woman. I didn't say hello, I just smiled as I passed, but I doubt she spent the rest of the day pondering my intentions.

Try smiling at people, Chris. You'll be surprised at the reaction you get. It might make you feel better about yourself.

And you say that:

"It gets on my nerves when people "try" to be nice, when they don't mean it - I'd know if someone meant something genuinely or not."

I'm not sure you would really know if somebody was genuine or not. Are you telling me that every person that has every smiled or acted nice towards you was doing it out of pity? or that it wasn't genuine? Because that's the way you are making it seem. Everytime somebody is nice to you, you come to hipforums and complain about it. Are you sure you're capable of judging these things?

either way, learn to chilllllllllllllll

 

Chris - maybe the girl who smiled at you liked what she saw when she looked at you. In past posts you have described yourself a little, but not enough to get a mental picture of you. You worry that you have a feminine figure - are you fat? You have said you have a little facial hair - do you still have it? What color is your hair? Eyes? Pale skin? Darker? Clear skin or facial blemishes? How tall are you?

It is not that unusual for guys your age to be very sensitive about their appearance - I know I was at your age - 6'2", maybe 125 pounds, skinny as a rail. (I've put on 60+ pounds of mostly muscle since then.)

We might be able to help more in your relationships with women if we had a mental picture of you, if you are too shy to post a real one. Why don't you do it? I posted one of me in the "Love and Sex" Forum, in the "Real Kinky" thread, on p. 37 of the "Risque shots" part (not that risque or kinky, however).

Do it, Chris. Don't be afraid.

 

Hi Chris,
I dont understand this whole thing you say about "pretty girls"? How does a pretty girl look like? And why are YOU only attractive the day you change you´re appearence so drastically as to end up in bruises and bandages? Where is the beauty in all of this?
It seems to me that you´ve become a slave of the media. You need to come out of that media box! The media disillusionize true human beauty. You were as beautiful the day you were born as you are now. And so it is with everybody else! We should all love eachother, not on how we look but what ideas/thoughts and dreams we are made of.
Sincerely love from Troldepigen