Greetings to all, I'm new here, but have read a lot of posts so far and have learned a lot. As I said in my intro I am newly married. The issue we are already having is, she came home early and saw me masturbating. She flipped out, lots of yelling (her) then she walked out. She come back about two hours later a lot calmer. She has not said anything about the incident, its been two weeks. Too scared to ask her about it. If you have had a similar incident, how did you deal with it? How did she deal with it? How long will I have to sleep on the couch?
You need to talk to her about it. No one here can speak for her. Are you giving us the whole story? Were you wanking into one of her expensive bras? Maybe to some porn she found objectionable? You need to find out what the issue is and discuss it. And why are you sleeping on the couch?
Hmm..I just can't imagine my wife getting angry about catching me spanking the monkey. She'd prolly just laugh. And then hopefully join in. I'm guessing your wife is very young? And....lemme guess....grew up pretty straightlaced. Small Town? You were here first or second guy? Sorry I can't help more. I've just never had a woman who get angry for that. Good luck with this. Tell her you were thinking about her when you were spankin it. That might help.
Its not that. She wont ever communicate to him the real reason she is angry, and it will take him 20 years to figure it out
Wow you poor guy you must be traumatized from being yelled at. I've never caught anyone masterbating before but I've been caught! He caught me and then he got a boner and flipped me over and fucked me lol Nothing wrong with masterbating, it's healthy!
That doesn't help cuckhold fantasies though. He actually doesn't want to hear masturbarion is healthy, he wants us to encourage him to get his new wife to peg him in butt the with a big black dildo on the grounds as punishment. That's what he's learned from this site. Like he says he's learned a lot, a lot of what? I dunno, but I bet he's reading the anal threads and getting he jollies off.
ftr-dude someone should have told you that getting married means you will be sleeping on the couch periodically for the rest of your life
Dude it doesn't sound like you know the person you married. Your in for a rough ride I would say. I'll bet she is going to be in charge in a large way in this blissful marriage. I was once married to a Warden and she also flipped out over such vile debauchery you were busted doing. Your second marriage will be better because we learn what and who not to get to involved with.
I'm wondering if some women's initial thought when walking in on their man beating off is, OMG he's cheating on me! I think you should talk to her and just make it clear that when your horny, you like to have a good release, and tell her your not cheating and that you just enjoy some private time unless she wants to join in lol.
Thanks for the comments. Chistal_Nocked is wright, Thanks for the comments. Chistal_Nocked is wright, She was 24 when we married, from a small town and very straight laced. I always thought masturbation was normal and have read many posts here and on other sites stating it is normal. Last night we did talk about it. She said it made here feel inadequate and she should be able to satisfy my needs. I assured her that is not the case. We talked quite a while about it, she was surprised about the frequency I masturbated. She is still not happy but is more understanding about it. Lastly, I was not watching porn at the time and not doing anything kinky. I was fantasizing about the great sex the night before and then I was rock and had to get off. I just had to to it.
I had this problem with my partner as well. my partner is not as interested in sex as I am and I would prefer to have sex everyday, or more. try to make her understand its not about her being inadequate, it's just that you're a complete horn dog, and you want to beat it.
If you were just wanking and not up to anything dodgy then she needs to give her straight laced arse a chill pill. My wife doesnt care. She does it too.
Oi Oi Oi Oi Oi If she gives you a reason that makes her sound vulnerable, what do you do? Oh schnookums, come give me a hug, I'll give you some attention She is not going to tell you the truth if it makes her sound selfish or manipulative - because then you'll fight and you'll hold it against for maybe years But you love her, she'd never lie to you (well a lie of omisiion isnt really a lie) blah blah blah......and you being a guy naturally assume she could never be 1/2 a dozen steps ahead of you, which you no doubt will deny you think chics are dumb, but you all do this And then if I talk like that, it comes off sounding very clinical and negative, then I become the bad guy, the only conclusion must be I hate women blah blah blah Then on top of that are all those assumptions you want to be true any way, that being from a small town and outwardly straight laced have anything to do with it She probably wanks more than you do, over stuff,,,,well you REALLY dont want to know about, inside her head she has to train you much like house training a dog - for both being a messy pig and whacking it to other girls. Thinks she cant really give you a decent sex life anyway because you will get bored too quickly, wont try as hard, then she will get dumped but says to you she should be able to satisfy your needs .....but sure, she feels inadequate, that has to be the truth, okey dokey
Get her drunk tonight, and do things wilder than you normally do. Drive her sexually nuts!!! Tell her she's the best you've ever had, etc. Afterwards tell her she got you so excited that when you came you thought it was gonna shoot clear through her **** and out her ass!
I think your wife has some other real issues and is using this incident as an excuse for her ways. Sounds a bit over the top to me that she act like that and throw your poor ass on the couch when your just newly married. I had a neighbor friend years back whos wifecwent psycho on him and I one day when she found our we had gone out to the stripper bar the night before. She had a rampage. And tried to convince my wife even to take her side and take me down too. Whicj my wife didnt. Found out a few weeks later her issue was hiding her own secret. She was cheating on him in their own home during the overnight while he worked. My mother for years told me and my siblings that sex was a terrible thing before marriage and threatened us in many ways to try and prevent it. Realized years later she too was having sideline sex behind my dads back.
I've never run into a lady who was so STRAITLACED that she gave a fiddler's for her man pulling his plonker - seriously - if they were prepared to engage in heavy petting, oral gratification, intercourse etc, seeing their man have a wank would seem pretty quotidian. Many couples masturbate together or masturbate/pet each other alternately as one of the many erotic arrows in their respective quivers. If you were masturbating directly onto her best lingerie, which might be damaged by the Attack of the Arbitrary Spermatazoa, that would be different but you don't mention anything like that. You might suggest that if she gets off her high horse about your jerking off, you'll do the dishes. Kilroy: a straitjacket ain't the shortest distance twixt two points
Just Tell Her That You And Your Hand Have Been An "Item" Ever Since You Were Born........And If She Wants To Keep The Marriage She Will Have To Be Happy At Being One Third Of A Threesome....... Then Go Out And Buy A More Comfortable Couch..... Cheers Glen.
