My partner and I are new to the milking and prostrate stimulation experience. We would welcome any tips on this whole new world to our sex life. Thank you!
First and foremost, welcome to the incredibly pleasurable world of prostate stimulation! I find it hard to give advice because it is such a personal thing. For my wife and I, there are a couple of things that work well. If I’m lying on my back with a thick pillow under my hips, she has easy access kneeling between my legs, she has easy access. Another good one (for me) is sitting on the edge of a comfortable couch with my legs spread and just the very top of my butt still on the couch. She kneels in front of me and does her massage. Both of these positions 1) allow for kissing (it is an intimacy thing!), 2) allow her to see the results of the massage (the flow), and 3) easy access for oral if she’s inclined for cleanup. Have fun and enjoy!
The best position I find is with me on my back, a pillow underneath my bum/hips, and legs wide apart with a partner kneeling between. Because the man is completely submissive in this position I find it sometimes adds to the pleasure to introduce a little bondage using restraints on wrists and ankles to ensure whoever is milking me has easy access, can do what they want, and can do it for as long as they want. Typically milking is as much about tease and denial as it is about the build up to what inevitably is a larger and messier orgasm.
Most people, and most doctors, access the prostate through anal penetration. Many people aren't aware of another access point, but there is one. Mix it up. There is one other basic way of accessing his prostate, and it involves reaching it with your fingers through the area between his testes and the base of his penis. Some minority of doctors also examine the prostate that way. I suppose it depends on what they were taught in medical school. I actually prefer the sensation of the latter approach. Give it a try.
From what I have always read. Starting in the kneeling position for him allows easy access. And the prostate will be towards the front side. Just remember to use a lot of lube. The anus , both male or female does not self lube. The prostate is about the size of a walnut and feels firmer then the rest of the area around it. Gentle pressure and sliding your finger or fingers across it at the same time will massage it. Once you are comfortable doing it you can try different positions. The whole idea is for both of you to be comfortable with it. Have fun ....and enjoy it Just remember that sometimes he may have an erection and sometimes he may not. But he will be able to ejaculate both ways. And it does create a WOW factor when it happens
First - congrats on being open to prostate massage/stimulation!! It's a very safe and enjoyable addition to your sexual repertoire. You can stimulate his prostate by inserting your well-lubed finger(s) into his anus and LIGHTLY rubbing with your finger on the same side of his rectum as his belly button. You should feel a slightly harder area the size of a walnut - that's his prostate gland. GENTLY - LIGHTLY rub this area. He should at some point begin to leak seminal fluid from his cock. You can softly stroke him to increase the flow, or orally stimulate him while rubbing his prostate. There are a number of really good prostate vibrators on the market too. These are inserted into the guy's rectum using lots of lube until fully seated inside him. Pressing of a button - or buttons - will cause varying strengths and pulses of vibrations to ripple through his prostate. This is very stimulating for him!! Again softly stroking him or licking/sucking on him while the vibrator is on will cause crazy levels of heat. Major orgasms usually result and he'll be convulsing on the bed more than likely. You can also try using a vibrator like a Magic Wand on the outside of him by holding it on the perineum. That's the area between his balls and his anus. Actually closer to his anus than balls. If you hit the exact spot, he'll let you know!! He'll feel sensations going all through him, and again, soft stroking or oral stimulation will send him into orbit!! If you just want to strictly "milk" him, you can eliminate the stroking and oral stimulation and just let his seminal fluid run out of him. He may still have an orgasm - or not. And you may be able to make him cum more than once if you keep at it. Have fun with it and enjoy all the new sensations/reactions. Love each other!!
