New to all online forums but desperate!!

Im 34 yearsold and been in a commited relationship for over 6 years. Our sexwasgoodatbeginning but the last 2 years or so alot of secrets of his were discovered. Hes severely addictedto porn and stoppedtouching mecompletely a year ago. He says he loves me and wants this but instead of caring at all aboutmy needs orhow deeplyhes hurting me he only cares about his needs and gets off to other women and talks to other women whilegetting off. Im so tired of feeling insecure and like shit is wrong with me. What should i do??

 

First of all, welcome to the forum and I hope you like it here!

So back to your question. It seems your partner doesn't see the gravity of his actions so you really need a long talk with him to make him understand the damage that he is doing to you (and himself). You both have to set some boundaries and he needs to get off that porn. Like any sort of addiction, it can be severely damaging. Perhaps maybe only watch porn when you are present where you can enjoy it together?

If he is truly commited to this relationship, he will have to be willing to make changes.

 

I agree with the above, you got to talk with him and tell him the damage he is doing to your relationship. If you love him then he is worth fighting for. If it continues you really got to figure out what’s best. You deserve to be happy. What your describing, is it a form cheating? When he talks with other woman. You matter, your needs matter. I wish you the best of luck

 

Sorry to hear this. He's obviously got a problem, and if he's unwilling to address it, I'd probably start planning on moving on. As mentioned, you deserve to be happy, your in the prime of your life, you're very attractive and deserve better.

 

Hi and welcome to Hip may you enjoy it here.

With regards to your situation.
The fact that you have adressed this issue with him, and he is not willing to change, my best advice would be to drop him like a bad habbit and move on, find someone who enjoys havng sex more than he enjoys watching others have sex.