I thought I just posted an introduction, but I don't see it. I am an American who grew up in Haiti, went to college in Kentucky, then lived mostly in Colorado (4 years, 1979- 1983. Both my children were born there), Iowa (3 years), and Kentucky (24 years). I taught literature and writing in two Kentucky universities and one semester in Hermosillo, Mexico, in 2001. I have been teaching in Thailand since 2010 and in southern Thailand by the ocean since 2012. I probably don't belong on this forum, but not sure where I belong. I am attracted to females, but I'm not a strictly lesbian since I am partially trans, bigender, gender fluid, bisexual, heterosexual, asexual, and happily single at the moment, but there are aspects of me that fit all those descriptions. I suppose I'm like more people than will admit to it, but I've read that each group only accepts people exactly like them. Oh, well.
Thank you so much, Indy and stormountainman. So, what kind of forum is this? Is this for one particular gender and/or orientation? I was under the impression this is a lesbian forum, but since I'm not in a conventional gender category, I suppose it doesn't matter. Yes, I love being in Thailand, since it reminds me of tropical Haiti where I grew up. Love the islands and beaches, but every day I'm riding my motorbike, climbing some mountain or wading in a swamp, or out on an island photographing birds. Buddhist Thailanders don't care what orientation or gender identity people express, so it's great here. Here's a link to few photos I've taken around Thailand https://picasaweb.google.com/rachelbro3/ScenesAroundThailandNakhon#slideshow/5915847078265942562
I wouldn't say that there is any real method to these forums. There are gay and lesbian areas of course but we're more a big melting pot than anything. Thailand looks awesome, love the old style architecture. Not sure about the food
This is an "everything" forum. There is a lesbian forum http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/forumdisplay.php?f=452 But check out the rest of the forums, too. If you're a college professor and whatnot, we definitely need more smart people here. http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/index.php Here's the best link that shows all the newest most active threads.. http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/search.php?do=getnew
Good thing it's an "everything forum" because I could be labeled anything, depending on how someone chooses to look at it. I've been married to men, so I'm hetero. I think women are the most beautiful thing on earth and want to kiss them (lesbian?), I don't feel actual sexual attraction to either gender (asexual?), I feel distinct male and female modes (bigender?) and I'm partially trans..about 60% where I see myself as male (trans?) but I can move from one mode to the other (gender fluid?) and when I was married I moved back in forth from female to gay male roles, with various forms of dom behavior (to the delight of my bi male spouse) but I can take sex or leave it and I'm happily single (neutral?) but females definitely light up my male side. But since I am posing as a normal female, I can't talk about it. I seem to fit every category here, but don't know where to express myself without offending someone. I want to talk about all the gorgeous, wonderful Thailand women, but if I say that on the lesbian forum, people might take me for lesbian, when that part of me sees himself as MALE (sigh). Oh, well.
Hi there birdpics :seeya: Nobody here worries about labels. Labels are for groceries, not people. It occurs to me that you may be over-thinking your situation a little? Just relax, go with the flow, and say what's on your mind - this is a free speech forum, after all. Try to say it in the right section of the forum if you can, but don't worry if you get it wrong from time to time. The mods are good at moving out-of-place things back where they belong. So welcome ... relax ... chill ... enjoy
welcome! so you would have been in haiti under baby doc (and maybe papa doc too, depending on how old you are)? what was that like?
Thanks! You were in Haiti? I was born in Port Margot, north of Haiti, in 1952 (American parents), I grew up in the Papa Doc era, even went horseback riding with a friend past Baby Doc's playboy mansion in Petionville when I lived there in 1968 attending Union School. My first husband went to school with Baby Doc, and a was entering the door few yards away during an armed kidnapping attempt. Basically, no country infrastructure..all funds went into the tontomacouts who "disappeared" anyone who said anything negative about the government. But the people who came after him were FAR worse.. Hi, Jo!
We do have a transgender forum under gay. Our separations are sometimes random. I think genderqueer postings do well there.
Thanks! I qualify for most labelings, but not enough to claim any one of them. I'm transgender, but only about 60 percent, my daughter is about 50%. The bio of a fetus is determined in the first trimester but the brain mapping is formed in the second, and if something interferes-drugs, leftover hormones from a previous pregnancy, anti-bodies in the mother to gender hormones, the brain can be partially initialized in both genders or a mix. Since MRIs show differences in brain sizes and shapes between the genders, and in "gay" brains, it's something physical as well as cultural. Sometimes I feel like I'm female, but sometimes I go into male mode and suddenly females are very attractive, and I want to watch football and hang out in a bar. But studies show creative androgynes often have high IQs and likely the ones changing the world http://blogs.psychcentral.com/creative-mind/2011/02/the-complexity-of-the-creative-personality/
I've never been there, but I've done a lot of reading about Haiti, it interests me. I'd like to visit when I have enough money to do so.
