Greetings! My name is Oisin (pronounced Oh-sheen), and I'm new here. I am looking for like-minded individuals who might help me along a path I'm walking in my life right now. You see, a friend of mine died a year ago and a mutual friend --- an old school chum --- confided in my over a few stouts that he'd had feelings for our mate but never told him. We found out at the funeral that the deceased never married and his friends were obviously gay-friendly. My chum's heart is broken because of what might have been and now it is too late. That got me thinking about my own secret love affair, a buddy from school who has divorced. We quit being friends about thirty years ago when he was engaging in some risky behavior I didn't want to be part of. We never had sex, but it was obvious that emotionally, we were in love. When we went to college, we got really close and I think it scared him since he acts straight. He spurned me and I left, broken hearted, to return home to finish my studies. I have reached out to him via social media and we've reconciled that old spat. He admits he was a poor friend, too. But his job takes him all over the world and we've never been able to meet in the flesh to catch up. It makes me realize, when I take off the 'rose colored glasses' that he was kind of like that when we were young...never having time for me, always on the run. So, I'm a bit worried that I might be letting the good memories overcast the bad realities of a relationship with him. (I'll call him Jim). Jim may not be any better material for a long-term love than he was before. Any way, I am hoping some on this forum may have some experience reuniting with old loves and could help me find my way. Hope this is not too much "introduction". Sincerely, Oisin T.
