New girlfriend's vagina very slack

Evening all,
First post so go easy!
So not an easy one to discuss - but I've been seeing a (really great) woman for 4 months now, and we have an amazingly adventurous sex life so far. Simply, she's a great catch. I'm 32, she's 30, never had kids.

However, the only thing I struggle with is vaginal penetration. It just doesn't feel that good for me! It sounds awful but she is definitely rather less tight than any other partners i've had, and also gets very, very wet during sex. I am of average size and girth, so before I get slated I know it's not my own physicality that is the issue here. In fact it often results in me losing my erection which is made worse by me worrying about that fact.

We do lots of 'other' things besides this, but when it comes to us wanting some nice, loving, vanilla cuddle-sex I'm finding it pretty difficult to sustain hers and my pleasure for very long as the physical sensation just isnt there.

Obviously I think an awful lot of this girl so want to be able to e(rectify) the problem without having to broach the subject with her! Hardly what any woman wants to hear!

Sensible advice only please

 

If she’s the one for you, then you have to make the adjustment, since there’s little she can do short of surgery. And it would be way too demanding for you to request that of her.

So what adjustment to make to yourself? You have to change your attitude about the nature of her equipment. Prevailing attitudes are that tight is sexy and loose suggests there’s been a lot of traffic down there and it’s showing wear.

Well fuck prevailing attitudes. What she has is lovely and desirable and beautiful and sexy and erotic and delicious and can give you the best sex you ever had if you only view it through that lens. You have but to believe it and it will be true.

I say this as a man who has had an experience with a woman similarly equipped. She had a huge vulva and cavernous vagina. On the outside, there was so much that needed licking, and she exuded such a strong, seductive flavor down there. Good lord was that ever some fine cunnilingus she shared with me. On the inside, it felt as though my penis was being caressed by warm wispy clouds of paradise, touching ever so lightly with just enough sensation that I would be overwhelmed by my feelings for her. And when I climaxed, it was like cumming into infinity. Indeed my plumbing rose to the occasion, delivering greater volumes of product each time than I ever have for any other lady.

Sadly our affair was brief. She decided I was not the one for her. She totally broke my heart. I would have married her if she’d have had me. That was 45 years ago. I still think about her often and recollect the exquisite joy she shared with me — and even sometimes masturbate to those recollections.

So hold this Goddess naked in your arms and let her breath fall over your cheeks. Press your face to her breasts and listen to the music of her heartbeat. Feel your own heart pound as you do. Kiss every square inch of skin she has all over and cry out that you love her. Bury your face in her sweet vulva and lick it till your lips and tongue ache with ecstasy and her essence has filled your head and intoxicated your spirit. Then fuck her with wild abandon, with tears of joy dripping from your eyes. Then tell her that that confection of a vagina she shared with you has made you the happiest man on earth. It won’t be a lie because you’ll believe it too. You really will.

 

It’s all about positioning.

 

Can't say how much it would work for your girlfriends particular anatomy but it definitely works for some women: Kegals. Like any other muscle, the tone and its strength can be increased through consistent exercise. Broaching the subject however is another matter all together. Good luck to you!

 

I love my wife's loose pussy! She gets super excited and relaxed. And when she uses her giant dildo she gets even looser. Great for fistinf too. It sounds like your new girlfriend is just happy with you.
But if you want tighter pussy.... Have her lay on her stomach, legs together, then her pussy will be great. Or try in her ass.

 

Your description reminds me of my wife. Not the tightest pussy and get very wet. I've come to enjoy the ease of sliding in and out. It actually helps me last longer so I seem like Superman to her.

 

If she is open minded and has somewhat of an adventurous side, here is an idea: A butt plug for her. They are different in different positions but, basically, what ends up happening is that they encroach on the vaginal wall. This makes it tighter for you, and her. Plus, she gets the extra stimulation of having something in her butt. Again, that is assuming she is open to this. The best, is an inflatable butt plug. This way, it can be on the smallish side for ease of insertion. Once in, she can pump it up to as much as she is comfortable with. As the plug inflates, something has to give to make space. That space happens to be the vagina. Makes a very noticeable difference for both. Win win.

Watching some DP porn might get her more into the mood of trying.

 

Helluva great idea, Tarp!!

 

My ex wife had a very large meaty slack vagina, she said she’d always been a big girl down there and after having kids it was even more lose. She said all her previous boyfriends commented how big she was and before we got together I’d heard from two friends of mine who she had fucked she had really baggy pussy.

 

Tom, yours is a classic bit. You have the perfect penis. Her vagina is simply too big. You win.

 

yeah my wife's vagina isn't as tight as, well any of my exes actually. Hers varies though, sometimes it's nice and snug and every once in a blue moon there isn't enough friction and I never cum although she still gets off. Go figure. And no she doesn't fake it. Actually she orgasms easier than any partner that I have ever had. She sometimes orgasms just sucking her tits. A lucky woman.

 

very nice, I still remember times like that, especially this one ex who could really flex and grip with her vjj. With her I had to be 100% stiff to stick it in. We also have three kids and at first I was afraid, I was terrified that she would be even less tight after the first kid, but I swear that she improved slightly afterward.

 

Thanks. We do this routinely and it clearly makes a significant difference for both of us. Often times, she will give it an extra pump or three while I'm inside her and I can feel her vagina tightening around me. And of course, it makes me feel larger to her in addition to giving her that full sensation down there, anally and vaginally. It's a bit like her having an adjustable vagina.

We've gone through a lot of toys in our 30+ years together but we've been using this inflatable plug longer than any other, by far. About 6 years. The plastic valve broke on it after five uses. I replaced it with a steel valve from the medical supply store. $5. The wires pulled out of the vibrating part three years ago. Not a deal breaker for us. We're going to drive the wheels off the thing then get another!

Some times she just wants to make love without having an orgasm. But when she gets this plug out, I know she is ready to cum hard and loud.

Highly recommended! But, the woman will have to be in to butt play (my wife was from the beginning), or at least willing and eager to experiment. In the latter case, I'd recommend starting with something a little more slender. Not that the plug is big but it is best to be ultra conservative when getting into butt play.

 

Didn't read entire thread, what about wearing a cock sleeve?

 

See if she might be interested in anal play. My ex-wife and I used to have incredible conventional sex. But, I started using my fingers in around and in her butt hole while engaging in our sex play and soon she wanted to try full anal sex. It became a regular thing for us and her tight ass felt amazing every time.

 

Being I've been with over 30 different women my cock has sunk into a lot of different sized vaginas. All felt great when initially sliding in but a few didn't do much from there. Like cock size matters so does pussy size. Through experience I found a position that works with the largest pussy and all you have to do is place your legs on the outside of hers in missionary. Most of the time humans fuck with her legs spread which opens up the vagina for insertion. Then the intercourse is continued from there. But if the man, once inserted, gets her to close her legs together while he straddles them the pussy tightens right up. It's amazing the difference that is felt on the cock. Now the trouble is the OP made one post over a year ago and left. Too bad because he might have learned something had he stuck around

 

Your post was a while ago so I hope things have worked out.
One of my ex's was very loose and it took me a while to find some good methods for me to get enough stimulation, she was used to sex with a loose pussy so she had no problems.
One favourite was in missionary really thrusting to one side completely focusing on rubbing along the left or right. Another was very big circling of the hips. Doggy was crazy, she would be gaping on the outside and balloon open inside, but I loved it.

My wife's pussy after six years of gradual stretching is very loose (with no warm up, 4 fingers of of each hand straight in and pull open) and we love it. I always put 4 fingers or my fist in with my dick. Multiple layers of cock sleeves and inflatable dildos are also a favourite of ours.

For me a big, loose, sloppy pussy is much more fun. You have so many more options with a big pussy.