Hi, you can call me Salo if you need to address me in a thread. I'm new here as of today. I'm a middle-aged 30% bisexual male looking for support and encouragement in my situation. As briefly as I can put it, I've basically always been the way I am, but always dated women, because I can only form romantic attachments with women. When I was not in a relationship, I sometimes had sex with men but never "dated" a man or wanted a romantic relationship with one. I'm kind of a petite, slim, quiet guy; an artist and musician. My wife has lost all interest in sex due to early menopause and though I know I am loved, I don't feel desired, and it really has me down. I'm looking to talk about it with anyone in the same boat or someone who has found a solution.
So I think what I need to do is find a discrete male sex partner. Hopefully someone in the same situation. I need to know I'm desirable. I need to feel desired. It hurts so much sometimes not feeling desired.
When my wife went through menopause, her desire waned. I was 61 when I had my first experience with a man. I prefer men like you, petite and feminine. I can both give a man passionate sex, or make love to them as they want. Maybe you can find a man to give you what you want. My wife regained her sexual desire in her early 60’s. Don’t push her, but always let her know you desire her, she’ll come back around
I went through similar situation with my wife many years ago and it did open the door for me to casually walk through to the world of playing with men in a secretive life. I was and am a higher percent gay than you, so it felt all the more natural to look for my needs to be met that way. There were many other contributing factors in my life that brought this about. I don't mean to blame my wife's change in life but it was a factor. I am also looking for emotional connectivity with someone, as well as the physical, sexual connection. Most of my life seems pretty good so I am not sure why I feel the need to rock it by bringing an emotional connection with a man into it - howwever it may never happen anyway. Romance is a wonderful thing. If you can maintain that connection with your wife without destroying your relationship by adding sex with men to the mix, I hope it will work for you. It didn't work so well for me. although, my wife and I do get along pretty well. We live our own lives. We havent sat on a couch together, holding hands or kissing, and no more romantic dinners. My escapades with random sex are fun but does not last long enough to buoy my emotional needs. This probably doesn't help you at all. Just know, nothing comes easy in this thing called life. There are so many factors we can't always see when we go looking for something we dont have at home anymore.
