I'm able to get myself off easily (through clit stimulation), and recently found out I occasionally squirt too. The only time I felt like I was close to an orgasm through penetration was the first couple times I had sex and I felt like I had to pee and didn't let myself go. If I knew what was going on I would've just gone with it, but now I can't even get to that point. Am I doing something wrong?
If I were in your situation (as a female), I would've let my urges to pee just go for it & clean up any discharges later. You don't need to use the toilet if you can pee elsewhere & to hell with what mess it might make on your bedding
You are not unusual. There are many women who need some form of direct stimulation to climax: pure penetration alone does not achieve an orgasm. Very common. Most of us just give a little twiddle whilst he is ploughing away and "bingo" - everyone's happy. be open about it: it is not a comment on his manhood or virility. It's just the way you and many more women are! As far as feeling like peeing goes: the "manuals" say that feeling is a harbinger to you ejaculating - aka "squirting." next time let go and see what happens.
I don't think YOU are doing something wrong, your lover just needs to take more time with you. AND you need to play around with yourself more often to get in tune with your own body, so when you do have sex, you know when he hits the right spot and what to expect.
The guy(s) that you're doing it with need to use that boney part of their body just above the penis to rub and simulate your clitiors during sex and you'll have no problems. Guys normally just go with the in/out back and forth action cos its what feels good to us.
Try an egg vibrator on your clit while getting fucked. http://www.healthyandactive.com/the-silver-excitabullet.html http://www.healthyandactive.com/seven-7-function-vibrating-egg.html The battery powerd eggs get hot and die too soon.
Can't say I didn't orgasm during penetration but,,, when your man is good he is good. I couldn't with penetration alone but most men I have been with knew how to stimulate other areas, mostly the clit, and usually I have one with stim first, then all others are really easy to come. I don't like to have to play with myself and have never had to. Using a vib might work but again you shouldn't have to do it. That's like if we played with our guys balls and told him to work on the shaft so he could cum. If you were about to squirt, lucky you, I haven't had that experience yet and maybe never will, we are all different but I am trying now that I know more about it, mind you my orgasms are always mind blowing, ground shaking events so maybe I get there, just without all the fluids and mess others talk about. I don't bleed much during my period and I don't get wet very often except while foreplay is happening and during sex where some people claim they are wet all the time. I have had orgasms so bad I feel like someone tossed me in a huge clothes dryer for a minute a good while after it's happened. I also have a tingling sensation where it counts that night and sometimes into the next day like a tiny vibrator was left there, Love it, every time so if you let go and there isn't the fluid as talked about don't worry as long as you felt the earth move, heard bells and bombs blasting in air. If it turns out to be pee then maybe your senses inside are a bit messed up or you could try having a pee just before sex. Most claim it's not pee and it probably isn't. Some women can help themselves cum by playing with themselves, so try it if needed, me, I would feel like I was taking over and I would be out of sorts if he had to do that to himself because I know how to please him and make him moan and groan to the point he pushes at me to stop. He has even lifted me off him when he came during intercourse. Once that's happened I know I did a good job, especially when he says Wow! Why'd we wait so long? Even tho it might have only been a day. What's more, he won't even let me touch it for a while after he has finished. Me, I can cum again right after again and again, and one guy here said his wife can do that like twenty times in a night,,, wow. Mine are too intense to go past my record of 6. I am just too pooped to go on any further. Keep trying, get him to stimulate, show him what works and don't be shy, you will love yourself later for being open. Sometimes people like other things, as mentioned here, spanking, anal, lots of foreplay, feathers, talk, some roughing up before or during, to get them to the point you are trying for, loads of different strokes for different folks. Be inventive or better yet, ask him to be inventive with you.
