Nervous that my ex won't move to be near DS

Discussion in 'Parenting' started by minkajane, Apr 18, 2007.

  1. minkajane

    minkajane Member

    I have to move to go to graduate school. I'm in Ohio now. The nearest school with my program is an hour from where I am now, but these programs are so insanely competitive (1/3 of the applicants accepted per year) that there's no guarantee I'll get in. The other schools are in CT, WI, IL, and CA. It is not possible to work for the first 12-18 months of the 3 years, depending on the program. For the rest, it's only possible to work part-time

    My ex says he'll move to wherever we go (he adores his son) unless he finds a really great job here because he'd be able to give us more child support. If he moves, DS can live with him during the week and I can put some of my stuff in storage and get a studio apartment. That way, I don't end up with overwhelming amounts of debt when it's all said and done.

    If my ex won't move, I just don't know what I'm going to do. I'm probably going to be on welfare or unemployment as it is (can a single person get welfare?). I just don't know how I'd deal with just me and DS. He'd be in daycare all day long and I wouldn't be able to study in the evenings, I'd have to get a bigger apartment, and I wouldn't be able to homeschool him (which I REALLY want to do).

    Guess this is just a vent, but if anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated!
     
  2. barefoot_kirstyn

    barefoot_kirstyn belly flop

    I may not be too much help, but I went back to school this year with my hubby and it's not as hard as we thought it would be. You just have to be really good with time management skills. We work our butts off at school so that the homework at night is minimal. If we do have homework, we wait until Leane has gone to bed.
    I'm lucky, I have my dh with me, but there are also a BUNCH of single moms with more than one kid going to school there (one lady has 4 under the age of 5) and are doing just fine. The homeschooling thing would kinda be a bust though if you did that...I don't know what to tell you about it.
    But good luck with whatever happens !
     
  3. Frieden

    Frieden Senior Member

    Take out extra loans???
     
  4. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

    while I'm not juggling a very young one, (mine's 15 years) I did go to uni while Arlo was young. He was eight when I graduated, so ages 3-8. I found being near dad to be a mixed blessing. I also had weird schedules based on my availability to work, attend school and be mom.
    I'm in the application process for grad school, ad will be looking at evening classes. This is so I can work to support kiddo and the house. (I'm married to an artist who is struggling to find a new niche.)
     

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