negative daydreams

When I have my daymares, I try not to remember them. When I tell doctors about what I see in those daymares, it scares the fuck out of them. And then they tell me that I'm mentally ill....? Stupid fucks.

 

I think you're onto something Logan. I'll give it a try. Does anyone know who Iyanla Vanzant is? She's one of the more prominent characters in my daydreams. She's always right, I'm always wrong, because she's older and wiser. She tries to change the subject whenever I'm right. So anyway, solution time. My programmed response was this: "I'm full of myself, I love every inch of myself, the only world that matters is my own, the real world sucks and so doesn't everyone in it." What do you guys think?

 

I read "The Power of Now." I found that book very helpful.

 

Do you experience negative daydreams too?

 

Hi Samantha,
I do not have "negative" daydreams. (I have some pretty wild dreams that are mostly weird, and vivid, but not necessarily violent, or negative.) "The Power of Now" is about learning how to focus on the here and now. There is tremenodous benefit in being able to focus on the here and now.

 

Cant really recall any negative day dreams.

Plenty of times I've woken up in the middle of the night from weird ass night time dreams, with a wtf was that?

With most of my day dreams, I'm a pop or rock star

 

i tink its pretty normal.. like we are just 'venturin9' te 'wat ifs' if sometin9 really bad will appened to our lives..

te 9ood tin9 is at least, we already plan ahead and knows wat to do wen tis issue arrives.

 

I think it's pretty common for people that have anxiety. I, for instance, tend to have full-lenght arguments in my own head, often anticipating an argument that I think might happen sometime soon.

 

i do this too. then, of course, the arguments never seem to actually happen.

 

So I spoke to a psychologist who wrote an acclaimed book and has a good blog. He said to tap into my inner voice and use it to stand up to the "voices."

I'm finding it extremely hard. I can't stand up for myself. It's painful to keep losing against these aggressive figments. It's causing emotional pain that is making me tempted to drink (though I haven't yet).

What do you guys think of what he said?

 

Two things that help me with these is journaling and affirmations.. both help to train your head to think positive instead of negative. It takes time and but it can help.

 

If it's really a day-dream, snap yourself out of it or change topics.

That kind of unwanted, ongoing thinking is called rumination. You just have to manage it and try not to do it.

There's another phenomenon called "intrusive thoughts," which are negative thoughts that pop out of seemingly nowhere and interfere with your life.